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[quote=Anonymous]1. I would get a lock to my backyard access gate so kids could not enter my backyard. That is an invitation only space. No exceptions. Add a no trespassing sign. Be smart. Your child needs to learn to say that he can play in the neighborhood but not in the backyard.

2. We played in the neighborhood like this when I was a kid. No one was allowed in anyone else’s house. It was perfectly acceptable to dart into your own house to use the bathroom or grab a snack. Friends waited outside. This was a social norm enforced by the parents. No one questioned it. Obviously it wouldn’t apply to scheduled dates or if we ran in to ask permission impromptu. The friends waited outside if we asked. And moms often just said no. Teach your child to let the other kids know they will be right back and to come in alone.

3. The kid who gets locked out of his own house is what age? I might flag the appropriate social services anonymously. Hopefully a knock on the door jolts the parents out of complacency.

4. The boy who exposes himself and hits should not be unaccompanied out of the house until he has stronger social skills training. His parent or sitter could sit out front the house and intervene/support/take him home when he acts out. He should be able to play, but also supervised. That is a huge parenting fail. As he grows bigger, so will the problems if he does not get help. The parents haven’t left you with a lot of options except to protect your own child. Sad, but you’ve done the right thing.

TLDR: The idea of an old fashioned neighborhood pickup play vibe is terrific. But it is hard to implement in an era when shared social norms no longer exist. Good luck. [/quote]

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