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[quote=Anonymous]OP here - I don't know why I am expected to allow my child to play with another boy who is hitting him and exposing himself to him and other children in the neighborhood. Does inclusivity trump safety?

I have mentioned it to my neighbor multiple times, but the behavior has not changed. So no, he's not allowed to play at our house because he wants to play in the bathroom with the door closed, and I say no. He cannot follow house rules and has very loud meltdowns. I have said to my son he cannot exclude him from group play, but he doesn't have to play with him if he doesn't want to and he's not allowed at our house because of his behavior.

Diagnosis or not, his behavior is bothering to my son. My other neighbor has two little girls, and they were both over for dinner last night. When I explained the house rules (wash your hands, we don't hit or show body parts in our house) - she LOUDLY said, "Yeah, I'm not allowed to play with Larlo anymore because he kept showing me his private parts." So I'm not alone in thinking this behavior is unacceptable.

I've hosted barbecues, playdates, and offered lunch to create community, and have rarely had the offer reciprocated from my neighbors. There is one mom whose little boy is not allowed to go home during certain hours because they're "working"; so he's left with the other neighbors for 8+ hours a day on the weekends without being asked first. We've asked him to go home multiple times when he's rung the doorbell repeatedly and will stay in our driveway, playing by himself with the basketball hoop. His parents are clueless, and I'm not about to be a free daycare for them.

I have read all the responses and decided to keep some inexpensive and easy snacks and meals on hand for the kids who play well in our household and can follow the rules. I know some of you will say I'm too rigid and should just feed the entire neighborhood and have an open-door policy, but I don't want to because I feel like I'm being taken advantage of by some parents. The kids in the neighborhood want to play in our backyard because we have a trampoline, pool and a bounce house that we blow up once in a while. But the other parents *rarely*, if ever, host. [/quote]

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