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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] That's why I trained my daughters to get their hair and makeup routine to 10 min. They need to conform to society's standards [/quote]

Need? Why?[/quote]

Not that poster but presumably she wants to make sure her daughters have enough “pretty privilege” that they are not actively penalized for their appearance- by prospective romantic interests, employers, hell even just people out in public.  But she doesn’t want them to waste a ton of time on it or be obsessed with their looks.[/quote]

I grew up in a house that did not focus on appearance at all, and now I see that putting yourself together was probably criticized. (I say probably because I don’t recall specific comments that led me to believe that in childhood but have heard my parents and siblings make plenty once I was an adult.)

So it was a shocker to me to enter the working world and see how much appearance impacted life. I’m a slow learner, and yes, I should have realized it sooner.

My own approach with my children is to tell them that the world does focus on external appearance and looking nice is an advantage.  But at the same time, it’s a BS stand in for other positive attributes which aren’t actually tied to appearance. So they should take this advice and use it how they see best in the world.  [/quote]

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