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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]BTDT, OP. We were married 15 years with two kids. He had a massive midlife crisis. He didn’t have an affair but did a lot of other cliche things. He went from being dutiful and on all the time to not giving a crap and talking about his new needs. He was extremely angry and hostile. Basically, under stress his childhood trauma and other issues came out, and he cracked.

I agree that you need to mentally prepare for divorce. Get a lawyer and a therapist. He is no longer your partner. We wasted time with several couples therapists and though I wouldn’t have done it differently (had to feel I tried everything) it was pointless.

My theory is that he was always pretty self centered and for a short time identified his “self” with having a family/ being a husband, but when he realized it really involved un-selfing and being there for others he couldn’t hold it together. [/quote]

We had other issues, too. He had been in therapy for years with anxiety/OCD/ attachment issues. Big jealousy about my career and friends. I think he never grew up.[/quote]

Nothing your said here is about "we" at all but it is all about your evaluation of his character and core personhood. You think he is an awful creation of human being but you demand him to "love me I need it!". Those of us on your husband's end of this know what this is like, someone telling you that you are crap and in the same breath telling you that you don't love them  enough. [/quote]

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