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[quote=Anonymous]Your metal / security excuse is not valid. My mom in her 70s has a shoulder replacement and two hip replacements and mobility challenges. My MIL is an amputee with a prosthetic leg. I have been through the airport with both of them multiple times.

When I was 26, I had more money than time. Even when I technically had PTO, I didnt have the freedom to use it without guilt or a heavy workload when I returned - I was in the “paying dues” phase of my career.

Now I am a mom / wife / homeowner/ executive and my own mom will claim she can’t research a restaurant and make a reservation or make any plans. I am sure she would like to see us more often, but I am constantly juggling to get through the week. When I try to make plans and she claims she is “too busy” to think of something and plan it, I just don’t see her. She wants me to do the research, buy the ticket, host and serve dinner, etc. when she and my father are retired.

My mom’s excused are self-centered and lazy and so are yours OP. You need to discuss with your son what fits into his plans. Would he be willing to meet you at a middle point? Visit for a shorter period of time? Come visit - but work remotely part of the trip? Have you visit - but entertain yourselves during the day and hang out with him in the evenings after work? [/quote]

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