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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just google yelling in homes impact on kids. The results aren’t pretty. [/quote]

When they are being yelled at. Yelling at a hard of hearing dad is different.[/quote]

Actually no. Parents yelling at each other has about the same harm as spanking. Anger and aggression in the home has a significant detrimental effect on kids.[/quote]

Better than getting divorced. Have you seen that effect on kids?  [/quote]

Witnessing and being victim of bullying in the home is far more detrimental than visiting two calm parents in separate living spaces.

The problem of course is that most parents are terrible at self assessment for all the reasons that would be so, and many are unwilling to admit how much of a bully they may be to partner and to kids.

Very few bully parents do it only to the spouse and are always kind and patient with the children. Beyond which, subjecting your children to witnessing the bullying of their parent is abuse in itself. A partner who abuses their children's parent cannot themselves claim to be a good parent - they are among the worst kind of parent there is, creating a 'home' filled with tension and heightened anxiety in which little developing brains and bodies stew, learning unhealthy coping mechanisms that will become their lifetime struggle to overcome.[/quote]

So the kids are screwed either way if the parents divorce. But now the kids get to roam back and forth between homes and maybe there will be additional financial stress on top of having bad parents. Divorce won’t make like better for kids. Which is why i said what i said.[/quote]

Having fewer material things, a smaller or shared bedroom isn’t close to psychologically destructive as living inside a toxic marriage is for kids. Every adult I know who struggles with mental health and substance use disorder reports dysfunctional family of origin issues having to do with toxic behaviors of parents which compelled toxic behaviors in siblings and self.

I’ve never listened to any tortured adult lament the absence of cable TV or designer clothes from their childhoods as the reason they are struggling with self loathing and other serious issues in midlife.

I think it is neglectful parenting to choose financial security over providing a safe and peaceful home environment for a developing human being brought into this world through no choice of its own. I think it is cruelty to subject that child to psychological abuse so they can have more stuff and more vacations. That’s a sick mentality.[/quote]

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