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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Is this a joke? When was yelling not abusive?

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

do YOU have a point other than to bash women

there was an interesting discussion to be had here about how women deal with dysfunctional spouses and parenting stress vs women who are in fact abusive. but impossible to have with the current crop of DCUM incels.

I’ll just say I’ve seen many sides. A nasty BPD stepmother who used screaming and tantrums to get her way - although come to think of it most of her techniques didn’t require yelling. In myself when I am trying to get something done (shouldering the entire burden as per usual) and DS or DH mucks it up. And an actually abusive situation where the man used yelling just like a barking dog, to singal he would bite if we didn’t back down.

Unless you actually know more about the dynamic it’s fairly hard to tell what’s going on, unless the one incident is really bad (like, name calling or really extended or yelling at a small child.) There also are cultural norms involved too.

Your step mother wasn't abusive. You as children must have done things or not done things that frustrated her and made her angry and then obviously as a woman she can't control her emotions and so she lashed out. It was the dynamic, not her. If you hadn't wanted to be screamed at, you woudn't have made her frustrated. That is your view right? Women aren't abusive - they are just responding to a dynamic where the other people are acting in ways that frustrate them and so they deserve whatever actions are taken out on them. Your poor stepmother - how can you judge her? She is a woman, you should be supporting her and showing her empathy - she was in a hard dynamic that made her act that way and however she acted, those she took it out on deserved it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

Oh the poor husband! And the nagging wife! I wonder how things got to this terrible point. It’s really none of your business. But there you sit judging away.

Of course I judge abuse. I have no problem not accepting it. If I see you beating your kids, I will also judge - not just be empathetic that you are a woman who can't possibly find any other ways to manage your emotions without hurting others and you are a woman so you can't possibly be accountable for anything you do and who always says it has to be someone else's fault. I am a woman and I know many other women who manage to not be abusive or hurt other people and who are able to be accountable - and guess what - you could too. I judge you the same way I judge a man who abuses his wife. No issue at all judging either men or women who are abusive. I don't have any kind of unconditional support for anyone who is abusive or who tries to use being a woman as an excuse as to why they can't control themselves or why they can't be accountable for their own actions.

we see you. get a better hobby.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

do YOU have a point other than to bash women

there was an interesting discussion to be had here about how women deal with dysfunctional spouses and parenting stress vs women who are in fact abusive. but impossible to have with the current crop of DCUM incels.

I’ll just say I’ve seen many sides. A nasty BPD stepmother who used screaming and tantrums to get her way - although come to think of it most of her techniques didn’t require yelling. In myself when I am trying to get something done (shouldering the entire burden as per usual) and DS or DH mucks it up. And an actually abusive situation where the man used yelling just like a barking dog, to singal he would bite if we didn’t back down.

Unless you actually know more about the dynamic it’s fairly hard to tell what’s going on, unless the one incident is really bad (like, name calling or really extended or yelling at a small child.) There also are cultural norms involved too.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

Oh the poor husband! And the nagging wife! I wonder how things got to this terrible point. It’s really none of your business. But there you sit judging away.

Of course I judge abuse. I have no problem not accepting it. If I see you beating your kids, I will also judge - not just be empathetic that you are a woman who can't possibly find any other ways to manage your emotions without hurting others and you are a woman so you can't possibly be accountable for anything you do and who always says it has to be someone else's fault. I am a woman and I know many other women who manage to not be abusive or hurt other people and who are able to be accountable - and guess what - you could too. I judge you the same way I judge a man who abuses his wife. No issue at all judging either men or women who are abusive. I don't have any kind of unconditional support for anyone who is abusive or who tries to use being a woman as an excuse as to why they can't control themselves or why they can't be accountable for their own actions.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

Oh the poor husband! And the nagging wife! I wonder how things got to this terrible point. It’s really none of your business. But there you sit judging away.

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Anonymous wrote:Just google yelling in homes impact on kids. The results aren’t pretty.

When they are being yelled at. Yelling at a hard of hearing dad is different.

Actually no. Parents yelling at each other has about the same harm as spanking. Anger and aggression in the home has a significant detrimental effect on kids.

Better than getting divorced. Have you seen that effect on kids?

Witnessing and being victim of bullying in the home is far more detrimental than visiting two calm parents in separate living spaces.

The problem of course is that most parents are terrible at self assessment for all the reasons that would be so, and many are unwilling to admit how much of a bully they may be to partner and to kids.

Very few bully parents do it only to the spouse and are always kind and patient with the children. Beyond which, subjecting your children to witnessing the bullying of their parent is abuse in itself. A partner who abuses their children's parent cannot themselves claim to be a good parent - they are among the worst kind of parent there is, creating a 'home' filled with tension and heightened anxiety in which little developing brains and bodies stew, learning unhealthy coping mechanisms that will become their lifetime struggle to overcome.

So the kids are screwed either way if the parents divorce. But now the kids get to roam back and forth between homes and maybe there will be additional financial stress on top of having bad parents. Divorce won’t make like better for kids. Which is why i said what i said.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

Do you have a point? If you are just going to continually justify why its okay for you to shout and yell and berate your husband and yes that is abuse, you will get support on here to be as nasty to him as you want...but not from me. I feel the same about men abusing women as I do about women abusing men and I won't support either. I don't really care how much you think spouses desrve to be abused. I don't. Adults can make other choices if they are in a really unhealthy dyanamic. Turning to abuse is not the answer for anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

how is yelling at someone being “abusive”? if you can see a woman yelling at her husband once and conclude she is the abusive one, that is quite something. maybe you’d seem like less of an incel if you didn’t focus exclusively on ways to blame women …

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.

I am a woman and I come from the wonderful egalitarian place called Canada, and can see the US in the distance from my back window! I was not lecturing women on how to deal with husbands. I was commenting on the thread about the many comments justifying abusive behaviour based on the actions of the spouse. Men or women - I feel the same. Same sex or opposite sex - man to woman or woman to man. If you have an issue with that post, you should also have an issue with all the similar posts with the sexes changed. And you still don't seem to know what an incel is. It isn't women who disagree with you.

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Anonymous wrote:This is enlightening to see how many believe that a woman can not claim to be abused if her husband can justify berating, scolding, screaming, yelling at her by identifying things she did or didn't do that led to his frustration and behaviour.

It is interesting as on many threads where a woman says her husband was screaming, yelling, berating her...people call it abuse. They don't ask but did you do anything or not do anything that led to him being frustrated or overwhelmed - is their something in your relationship dynamic that explains why he has no choice but to act that way.

I wonder if we will see more comments saying the same as this thread that if she is the cause (via action or inaction) of his frustration - then it isn't abuse.

It’s behavior, incel. We’re in the US.

PP has a valid point and you weren’t able to formulate a better response than this? Safe to say your side lost. Maybe you can vent your frustration by screaming at your DH and kids. Your anger is always justified right?

PP is not in the US or American and wants to lecture women on how to deal with husbands? I wonder what egalitarian place that wonderful PP is posting from.