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My husband nearly died after an alcohol poisoning incident. That was nearly 2 years ago. When he first joined AA, I stopped drinking too. I thought he would be grateful that I was trying to help him be successful in his struggle. He never thanked me & it has caused a serious rift between us. Also, I attended 2 meetings with him as a show of support, but soon realized it just  wasn’t right for me. Now I’m feeling like his sponsor has influenced him to the extent that he is condescending & critical toward me. It’s making me miserable.[/quote]

Let me get this straight:  your drinking is important enough to you that you expect to be thanked for giving it up even briefly and you’re mad that you weren’t?

But you were able to decide after only two meetings that “it just wasn’t right for” you?

You might want to reevaluate that at some different meetings you go to without him. You might try Al-anon too.

You have a point that people can get overly dependent on sponsors. If he’s actually being condescending and critical you can remind him that he’s not your sponsor, that he needs to take his own inventory not yours, and work his own program. But you might benefit from a step back and asking yourself if your emotional responses have anything to do with your drinking or other status quo aspects being threatened.  “What is my part in this?”

Try to look at the good side of things. If he’s not drinking that’s an improvement. [/quote]

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