* not the lack of comprehension.

He got Fs from lack of organization and confusing technology and staffers doing half a** work, not compression.

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Anonymous wrote:He was accused of something that would draw attention of a local law enforcement.

He has ADHD.

I have been in contact with School about lack of support on their part in response to my multiple emails requesting help. I told them that I intend to contact the county and mass media. This is of course, our desperation to get School ‘adequate’ attention (as they were simply footballing my child around ) and I really meant it and I still mean it. After all me and my husband pay a lot of taxes to support the school.

It is right after I complained, the school in rush, pulled my son in and accused him. he right away, pointed out that it’s a different child with the same first name who should be accused. I believe that was the schools way to shut me down, but instead it escalated even more. They didn’t even get their basic facts straight… digital footprint is usually associated with full names so all they had to do is to check which Larla did that…

Very tough times.

In summary: This was a very brief case of mistaken identity, that was cleared up quickly. OP's son is not in trouble. But (i) OP believes that it was in retaliation for her pressing about homework assignments, (ii) is contacting the ombudsman (or someone else) because of it, and (iii) wants to switch schools because of it.

Conclusion: Op is off her rocker.

You mention digital footprint. If something your child sent to someone or received from someone, don’t you have have the emails or whatever it is on your side? Could you not just print that out and present?

You say “which Larla.” Is that supposed to be your son or is there also a girl involved that you could get help from?

They school accused her kid of something that another child did and he had to stay home until they realized the mistake. The kid is now upset, understandably and probalby has rumors going around about him even though he is innocent. It wasn't that hard to follow.

This is op. Thanks for your help to explain. Emotions are still raw so my style is not perfect.

To add, the school called me and said on the phone - “we found xyz that your son searched online and he did it at midnight from your home.” — I was speechless for I don’t know how long. Then somehow I gathered myself and said I want to find out more and who exactly is the person who gave my son the idea for that search, because based on my conversation, there is always someone at school influencing my child to choose bad choices…

The school then asked if I could bring my son over with his laptop. When the school showed their XYZ pictures to my son he got immediately visibly upset and immediately replied that was a different Larlo! That Larlo is always on that website!

The quote above is now sitting in my head like PTSD.

This says everything. Instead of actually defending your son, you immediately wanted to deflect blame for what you assumed were his actions on someone else. You DID think your son made the search...you just wanted to find someone to blame for putting the idea in his head.

So, if I understand your very jumbled story correctly, the student who misused his computer was a different student with the same first name. A mistake on the part of some busy school staff member. A mistake. Not a conspiracy, not a plot. Just a mistake that they took responsibility for after an investigation.

But YOU, on the other hand, assumed that your son had done what he was accused of...and you wanted him to have no responsibility for it, claiming only a worse child could have had the idea and somehow planted the idea in his head.

It's ironic...the school is actually responsible for exonerating your son.

The fact that your son was mistakenly excused does not earn him an extension beyond the school year for assignments that were already overdue. You are manufacturing drama to deflect any responsibility from your son for anything.

I have ADHD. I have to learn to live in a world with deadlines. Your son does, too. There is no one in on the school staff who wants your son hurt...they want to do their jobs as best they can and go home to their families.

You can't be a good mother while believing that your son can do no wrong and all of his teachers are his enemies. You think you are helping him. Instead, you are hobbling him.

I really think that those who are telling me to leave it alone are somehow engaged in the school system. Please note this situation brought out the act activist me that never ever happened to me before. Maybe it is a maternal instincts and being fed up by things I’ve seen in the system since my child entered it in the first grade. Perhaps things that I’ve seen just filed up and finally I’m really really fed up and want to speak up.

I will take the time I need to at least try and get those people who are paid by our taxes to just do their jobs a little bit properly. my requests were simple and very specific.

‘Please provide the list of assignments that are missing and indicate where to find them online. if it is a paper assignment, my child probably lost it so we need an electronic version, I said. But I said it in the much much nicer way with a lot of apologies for missing the assignments earlier in the qtr where my child was not focused and didn’t let me help him, telling me that he’s got everything under control and he’s a big boy…

Not a single time 5:04 counselor reached out to us with any updates whatsoever or on any check ins that she has conducted. 0

When I reached out to her a couple of times only, She promised things, but did not follow through in full. Just some little things are done, but important things are left out.

Secondly, the county still needs to know formally the issues that Schoology Integrated with Google creates for kids with special needs. if you read some of the posts here about Schoology Integrated with Google, you see that for the kid in the middle school to succeed, an adult needs to sit down next to the kid trying to figure out the assignment planning situation on a daily basis for at least one hour or more. I do not think this is OK. especially this is not OK, as It creates extreme difficulties for special needs kids.

Once we finally found math assignment by chasing down the teacher, he took freaking two minutes to get it done…

I think you move on from this. Leave it alone.

This is OP.
I am concerned about the other boy. I asked specific questions - like what is the policy and protocols you followed to establish safety—- but the school replied there is no threat. How can I get a more detailed report about what exactly they have done to come to this assessment? Thanks

*and some questions that he does not understand…

He just wants to be left alone.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it doesn't seem to me like anyone was trying to railroad your child into anything, just because you were asking for missed assignments. Missed assignments, and kids asking to redo them happens ALL the time, and no one is going to form some sort of vendetta on the basis of that.

What it seems like is that someone (tech office? teacher?) noticed inappropriate material on Kid A's computer, and either reported it erroneously as Kid B's computer, or reported it correctly, and the admins made a mistake. Especially if the content was violent, they will take action, and immediately (I would hope so), and your kid got caught in the middle.

I don't know your child, but mine would've raged and moved on. I don't think you're doing him any favors by making this out to be "they're all out to get you", when it could be a really simple misunderstanding that they already apologized for.

Every child is different. This child is in tears, and I am the one doing talk therapy. He is better today and warmed to go back and see his friends on the condition that that councilor does not pull him again and some questions that he does not understand…

Anonymous wrote:OP, it doesn't seem to me like anyone was trying to railroad your child into anything, just because you were asking for missed assignments. Missed assignments, and kids asking to redo them happens ALL the time, and no one is going to form some sort of vendetta on the basis of that.

What it seems like is that someone (tech office? teacher?) noticed inappropriate material on Kid A's computer, and either reported it erroneously as Kid B's computer, or reported it correctly, and the admins made a mistake. Especially if the content was violent, they will take action, and immediately (I would hope so), and your kid got caught in the middle.

I don't know your child, but mine would've raged and moved on. I don't think you're doing him any favors by making this out to be "they're all out to get you", when it could be a really simple misunderstanding that they already apologized for.

When the school called me they said, our counselor with whom you were emailing got ‘concerned’ and found blah blah blah in your child’s comp. He searched for xyz at midnight from YOUR home on school comp.

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Anonymous wrote:Just here to sympathize and encourage you to raise hell. My DC threatened to kill himself after being wrongly accused of something (not as bad), and, in retrospect, I wish I would have done just that. If you are going to accuse a student of doing something that would draw the attention of local law enforcement, you better damn well make sure you have the right student.

I know! He was crying because he couldn’t complete his history assignment because they took away his laptop to investigate it further.

Just emotionally spent.

I don’t really know how to involve the media properly — now or later? When I also get a chance to process and calm down…

There was no other computer at home he could have used for the assignment? Please.

Yes there was, of course. I was describing the moment when he was focused on doing h/w at home and suddenly school called, asked to bring laptop, we went, they took away the comp, after false accusations shown on their own laptop.

I am not conspiracy theorist. But I can certainly take a course in comms. When I lose my patience, my comms are too direct.

OP, it doesn't seem to me like anyone was trying to railroad your child into anything, just because you were asking for missed assignments. Missed assignments, and kids asking to redo them happens ALL the time, and no one is going to form some sort of vendetta on the basis of that.

What it seems like is that someone (tech office? teacher?) noticed inappropriate material on Kid A's computer, and either reported it erroneously as Kid B's computer, or reported it correctly, and the admins made a mistake. Especially if the content was violent, they will take action, and immediately (I would hope so), and your kid got caught in the middle.

I don't know your child, but mine would've raged and moved on. I don't think you're doing him any favors by making this out to be "they're all out to get you", when it could be a really simple misunderstanding that they already apologized for.

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Anonymous wrote:Just here to sympathize and encourage you to raise hell. My DC threatened to kill himself after being wrongly accused of something (not as bad), and, in retrospect, I wish I would have done just that. If you are going to accuse a student of doing something that would draw the attention of local law enforcement, you better damn well make sure you have the right student.

I know! He was crying because he couldn’t complete his history assignment because they took away his laptop to investigate it further.

Just emotionally spent.

I don’t really know how to involve the media properly — now or later? When I also get a chance to process and calm down…

There was no other computer at home he could have used for the assignment? Please.

Anonymous wrote:FCPS does not care at all about the emotional damage they inflict on our children. Given that this does not seem to involve his classmates or teachers, but just admin, I would try to get him to go to school for at least a partial day. School refusal is a huge problem and it is something that you want to avoid.

And unless the classes with missing work are HS credit classes, it doesn't matter, just move on. Have him physically attend the last few days and then start fresh next year.

You aren't going to get the closure/resolution that you want from the school no matter what you do. The best thing for your child is to move on and encourage him to move on. If this is a two year middle school, he has just one more year and then you are done with that school.

+1, try to get him to go a couple more days next week because as the PP mentioned school refusal is a huge problem to overcome once it sets in.

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Anonymous wrote:I am sorry about my presentation.

I just needed to figure out where to go to navigate this so I posted pretty quickly dictating and not seeing the letters very well due to deteriorating eyesight.

I think — with the help form here — my plan is to email the principal because the assistant principal is proving useless, copy county ombudsman, request my son is granted till September the time to complete those assignments (as now I don’t know when will i get him back to being motivated… He needs some rest). And move out!!!

And hold off on media - I just don’t have the space at this time to accomplish it. I can always write a book later. I promise the style will be more coherent.

You’re a troll, correct? This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read. You’re going to write a book! LOL!

And you are clearly form the school. Be ready for the recordings of my crying child after what you have done.

Holy cow. OP is on track to blow up her family's whole world and not even see herself do it. I hope there is a co-parent doing damage control.

I also have the picture of my son with really really red eyes from crying because of the school… this is what the school did and they need to know. an apology email to parents is not gonna cut it. They need to apologize to my son as well in person.

That's never going to happen. A school will never apologize because apologizing is admitting guilt and admitting guilt opens them up even more if a lawsuit is brought.

Get your kid some therapy and stat working on healing. If he really is that traumatized, healing needs to happen. REAL healing.

The school already apologized via email. Focus on your son’s healing and not the school.

Apologies won’t dissolve the damage made on the child and the family. The school adm has to allow OP to move to another MS. Healing starts in a new environment.

They don’t have to allow anything. Nobody (teachers/students) at the school will remember anything in the fall. OP doesn’t have a strong enough claim to request new school placement. They should just follow up to make sure that there is no documentation linked back to the student regarding the one day suspension.

OP, is it possible that the language barrier is part of the issue here? Do you have a trusted friend that can support you?