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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are there women out there that have the same dream for their men? Because I don’t love going to the office every day, and would happily have the choice not to.

I am amazed at how old-fashioned Americans sense of gender roles are compared with my home country.[/quote]

But men don't get pregnant and give birth. I think people really underestimate how big of a deal it is for women to have kids. I did, before I had them. Now I totally understand why a woman would want a man like described.

[b]Motherhood is labor in a way fatherhood isn't. Unless that changes, these gender disparities will persist.[/b][/quote]

That is the point.  In many UMC houses there is no disparity in this after birth.  Marry a better quality of man and raise better quality men.[/quote]

What makes it possible is money though. When families have less money,[b] they wind up relying more heavily on the unpaid labor of women to make it work[/b]. UMC couples can create egalitarian marriages because they have enough income to solve any disparities with money, if necessary. And maybe some of these UMC families have female breadwinners, but most either have both parents who are earning well, or one very high earner.

Which means most of the families you are talking about have exactly what OP is talking about-- men whose wives *could* choose not to work, if they wanted or needed to. So these women could take an extended maternity leave, or take unpaid leave during pregnancy, if they felt it was needed, and it wouldn't somehow throw things all out if whack.

[b]I also think that family support/help can make it easier to have an equal marriage, [/b]because it can relieve three pressure. If you knew there wasn't going to be that kind of support, it might be one even more important to have a higher income. Money makes equality more accessible in marriage.[/quote]

1. Women should not view themselves as less than and therefore the default unpaid labor.  Men shouldn't view women this way either.

2. Family support goes a long way.

I didn't have family support and didn't come from money. I waited until I could afford kids to have them.  Women need to make smart choices rather than just believing what man tells them.  Only marry and have children with men that share this vision. [/quote]

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