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Reply to "I have a tumor, DH doesn't care. WWYD?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you want from him exactly? Is this cancer tumor? [/quote] I want to be able to talk to my spouse about how scared and worried I am without him getting angry at me (as though he thinks I did something to cause this just to annoy him). I also want him to ask me how I'm doing once in a while. I want to feel seen during a difficult time, and not ignored. I think my expectations are pretty realistic.[/quote] I agree and I think I'd be so hurt that this would probably irreparably damage the marriage for me. As for what I would do - I'd focus on me and getting myself well. I'd tell him point blank that his refusal to allow you to speak about this and his refusal to go to counseling are enormously hurtful and stressful. And then I'd work with my therapist to help me address it. I don't have much sympathy for the person not dealing with the illness here. He needs to step up.[/quote]
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