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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Single women make up 17% of homeowners. Single men? 9%. We don't need mediocre white men to live fulfilling lives.

https://www.bankrate.com/mortgages/single-women-pursue-homeownership/#:~:text=As%20of%202023%2C%20single%20women,percent%20of%20real%20estate%20purchases.)[/quote]

I don't think single women are doing better than men at homeownership, but rather, men who can afford homes also choose to get married (to women who couldn't afford a home on their own).

Or perhaps the women who couldn't afford a home on their own are more likely to seek out a man who can afford a home.

Just don't want to assume what is correlation and what is causation here.[/quote]

Exactly - I’m a single divorced woman with own home, stable job, car, international travel once a year and short weekend trips with my family. I have a housekeeper coming every 2 weeks. It would take seriously falling in love with someone for me to remarry and I need to feel that person is really pulling off his weight in the relationship. Mentally, financially, time availability etc [/quote]

Other than money and income earning ability, what do you think you bring to the relationship table?  Serious question.  The only stuff you mentioned is your ability to pay for certain things and what you think your needs are.

You didn't mention what you could bring to your partner other than money.  And since it seems as if you still want a partner who has more money than you, why should a guy equivalent or better than you financially settle for you?  [/quote]

I'm a great cook, educator (already sent one talented biological child to Ivy, and can send another set of kids, it won't be my own babies at this point but steps), wine&art connoisseur, can discuss many political and cultural topics with my partner; share their interests (if they align with mine such as tennis, skiing, reading, joint attendance of concerts, travel); can help out with his career and personal growth. I also have cute face, weigh 139 pounds at 5'9 height, still have 27' mid section and perky boobs, and love sex. Not sure if men bring the same to the table. Most just don't, otherwise I wouldn't beating them off with a stick from my door step. Had 2 marriage proposals in one year post divorce. [/quote]

Two marriage proposals in one year is impressive! Can you share what you think allowed you to have that sort of luck? What were the men like? Where they looking for marriage right out the gate? How old were you?[/quote]

I was 44 at that time, just dating. Divorced at 42 after a very long marriage. One man was 2 years younger never married and he proposed within 3 months. He said I was very level headed and he was eager to start a family soon (it would be the donor egg for me biological child for him). But he wanted a baby within 2 years which was too fast for me. I wasn’t ready to pull off a new family right after my divorce although I’m not opposed having more kids. A second man divorced 10 years ago, early 50s and just wanted to settle I think. More of a convenience /checking boxes after he dated for a while and got tired. Yes, both men were marriage oriented from the start, at the right point in life.
I’m 46 now and date early 50s man who is also open to marry but I’m not ready. I would remarry by my 50s, I told him. [/quote]

You wanted to have a kid in your mid 40s?  You still would?

It sounds kind of like both of these guys are a bit peculiar and desperate.    Any port in a storm right?[/quote]

No I don’t really want to have kids in my 40s, which is why I broke up with the younger man. [/quote]

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