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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am one of those 45+, never married, single mom women. Had a fiancé who was so sweet, fit, smart, educated and loving. He also could only ask 5-10minutes in the bedroom. It was a major deal breaker for me. I wish I could have endured our sexual issues. I ended it and have never met another man who measures up character-wise.

I went on to have a kid with a fling. He was great in bed, but horrible character and values.

Now, I would like to get married to an older and loving man. But I have two homes, a solid retirement plan, and financially stable lifestyle. Getting married seems so risky. I meet men often and I have tried to secure long lasting relationships. My tolerance is very low. The last guy who I really loved would [b]have these scary arguments with me. My stomach would get so sick after our arguments. He had a history of anger management and even walked out on his wife and two children (1 a newborn). I tried so hard to deal with it because we got along in other areas. But his anger created a big distance and I just decided to remain single[/b] instead of trying to push for more romance.

[b]I do feel like a failure[/b] because I have not secured a husband. [b]But all my married friends have tolerated infidelity, verbal abuse, unemployed husbands, addicts, criminal behavior or sexless marriages[/b] at some point in the relationship. I don't know what the right answers are. But I don't have the mental fortitude to deal with a partner who causes lots of volatility in my life. [/quote]

Girl, you were right not to stay with the guy with anger issues.  But be even quicker to pull the plug next time you see the anger and indications of bad character. Because every second you waste on a guy like that is time you could have spent on meeting someone healthier.

It is not "success" to be married to an abuser or tolerate infidelity, addiction, criminality, etc.

You are a success.  The problem is that there are not that many men who have become successful humans (as opposed to successful professionals). [/quote]

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