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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am cracking up at all these big laws wives acting like just because their DH is “home for dinner” or “drives to practice” - both of which I have no trouble believing - but leave out the part where their spouse is on the phone either texting or talking almost the entire day with brief pauses. Either you bill a ton of hours or you are so good at business development you don’t need to bill as many hours, but the latter requires a ton of lunches/dinners/evening events/golf, etc. Anyone trying to asset their big law husband basically works fed hours is straight up lying. Also, their spouse has never taken a vacation in their entire career that they didn’t work at least a small part of. Same for paternity leaves. The women have made their peace for their family and for the money, which there is nothing wrong with, but I’m not sure why they need to sugarcoat it.

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Well there is a difference between sometimes writing emails after dinner etc. and being entirely absent as a parent and spouse, as some of these people seem to think it's like. He estimates he works 55-60 hours a week. When DH joined his firm I was prepared to never see him for a few years until he got a more relaxed job, but it hasn't been like that. The worst part about it is that DH is doesn't really have time for himself. The only times he is doing something for himself are when he is working out (4x a week) and spending time with his friends (1x per month, if that). But he is still plenty present for his family. In fact, I don't envy a lot of women with fed spouses. I see a lot of women complaining about their partners with fed-type jobs not contributing to the household and/or not spending time together. They're begging for emotional intimacy and getting out the fair play cards and it's not because their spouses are working a lot. A lot of the quality of your marriage comes down to the quality of your spouse. I know I couldn't be as good of a parent and partner if I had a big law job so I would just not do a job like that because my priority is family. [/quote]

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