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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - my parents has a financial advisor and two attorneys (one estate, one business).

Definitely no affair. Really. I check our credit reports every 6 months, with his knowledge, and we can track each others locations (whole family is on find my iPhone).

When I spoke of in state tuition, it simply meant that we’ve saved in a 529 but are also cycling through through the 529 for the tax write off but paying for expenses immediately.

Also, again, any inheritance isn’t likely for a long time. Maybe 20 years? I mean, it could happen earlier but that would be devastating. And just not super likely. [/quote]

THEY had advice, but if you don't intend to comingle, did their advisors advise YOU on how to prevent that in your jurisdiction? Using it for family expenses may make it considered a marital asset regardless of your intent. In that case he'd get half of it plus $200,000 if you split. Have you shared the intent to perhaps not to comingle with your DH? What was his reaction?

Again, I hope you stay happily married and your parents live long lives, but you make a LOT of assumptions about your control and your marriage that may well not prove true. His history, his disinvestment in the family by drastically cutting his income, the amount of money at stake, lots of red flags but you blithely dismiss all.

His needy relatives/work shy adult brother, kids in college, retirement looming, and he cuts his share of the family income by 40%! and talks about winning lotto? Very odd behavior from a man 100% committed to the welfare of his family and not much of a work ethic. And when you talk about "our" financial goals I guess you mean yours and the FA because your DH is not on the same page. Even the language you use indicates denial. I think you may well have a feeling of unease that you are trying to ignore. [/quote]

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