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[quote=Anonymous]My DH works substantially more hours that me (I'm part time, WFH), and his job is also significantly more mentally draining.  I'd say I do 80-90% of the big household management stuff (scheduling, forms, sign ups, activities, dr/dentist appts, stocking the house, managing household help...).  I'd also say I do like 70% of the daily "childcare" stuff like drop offs, pick ups, carpools, dinner, homework, bedtimes.  I am NOT complaining -- it's perfectly fair and efficient given our differing professional demands.

There are a few tasks in both categories that are on his plate, and he does those things 100% his way.  But when he steps in to help out with all the things that I normally do or that I have put in the behind the scenes leg work for, he basically does them my way, because that just makes sense -- it keeps everyone happy, including him!  It's really not some big complicated thing about control or that he is incompetent or would do the bare minimum or something.  It's just that the person in charge of X has already made the decision.  (FWIW, we are both pretty laid back and never had super rigid routines with our kids.)  For his items, I do them his way if I step in.

I can't imagine being married to someone that would purposefully not feed our children while I was out with the expectation that I would do it instead when I came home.  But that is a totally different thread, really.  [/quote]

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