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[quote=Anonymous]I agree that the post upthread that talked about how pregnancy makes women dial it in was insightful. There's no comparable experience for men in the lead-up to parenthood. When men think about what being a father will involve, they tend to focus on (and freak out about) the mechanical aspects of it: how to change a diaper, how to hold the baby, etc. But things like that are easy, and after you do them a few times they become second nature. What's hard is changing your mindset: realizing that kids need stability and routine, realizing that certain things just need to be done, realizing that your life isn't about you anymore, learning to live more in the present and find satisfaction in small things. And there aren't a lot of resources to help men do this, nor does society tell them that it's something they need to do.

To be clear, I still think it's each individual man's responsibility to get his head in the game. Some men do it, so more ought to be able to. But there could be more of an effort made to give men the tools that they need to make the same mindset transition that women are able make thanks to biology.[/quote]

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