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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am really annoyed that I am the only sibling that lives in the same city as my mother who lives in assisted living. Both my other siblings live over 8 hours by far away. So by default I am the one that constantly is called by my mother who is in an assisted living place, by the assisted living place, by doctors, etc. I was the least favorite child and it was apparent to all my family members. It wasn’t that I had such an awful upbringing just that I was never close to my mother. In contrast my younger sister was extremely close and my mother favored and adored her. My brother was also favored. I have been doing a lot of the grunt work while my siblings rarely visit- every other year. It feels like I am having to do more work every year with medical appointments, managing bills ((she has mild cognitive impairment that is progressing to dementia so I find unpaid bills in her apartment), etc. I want to opt out but how? Any ideas to pull away from this situation. I want to be the one visiting every other year. [/quote] I have not read the responses to this thread but..... Outsource everything. Hire an accounting service to pay her bills (change bills so they go electronically to the accounting service) Hire a caregiver agency to driver her to her appointments and sit there with her. The agencies will generally have a 4 hour minimum.[/quote]
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