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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your siblings won't help, you need to set your own limits and determine what you will outsource.

It's not that hard to hire a care manager or a visiting nurse who can both stop in to do checks and take your mom to appointments, plus write up an after-action report. If you're in the DMV, there are a ton of options and I can give you a recommendation for a visiting nurse service.

As far as bills, you're going to have to go in and set up automatic billing and electronic statements in an account you have access to. Yes, this is a lot of work up front but it is more set it and forget it, so don't complain that you're the only one who will do it and then keep on martyring yourself by not implementing a system that works for you.

We did this for my mom, who has mild cognitive decline but also (in hindsight) pretty severe ADHD, as she's been crap at dealing with paperwork and bills my entire life. We now have all her statements sent electronically to a gmail address (herfullnamestatements@gmail.com) that's solely for statements, as her regular email is worthless given how much junk mail she gets. All her bills are set up for autopay. It was a metric ton of work but it had to be done so that we weren't constantly having to go over there and dig out her accumulated paper pile to sort into junk and bills and then take care of them.

[i]You need to have POAs stat before your mom goes too far downhill to sign them. Including durable health care POAs/healthcare proxies. You will be in a world of hurt if you don't. These are not hard -- you can find the right forms online for your state. It's simply a question of printing them out and filling them out. Among other things, you need to get your mom to agree to no extreme measures/do not rescusitate, or the trauma could get much, much, much worse if something happens like a heart attack or stroke.[/quote][/i]

OP, yes, you need to do this stat or things will get a lot more complicated and frustrating. [/quote]

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