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[quote=Anonymous]I was still unbelievably hormonal and crying all the time 5 days out from birth, OP has NOTHING to be embarrassed about in her reaction. And her mom criticizing her emotional reaction FIVE DAYS AFTER GIVING BIRTH is ridiculous -- it is completely normal for a woman to more emotional in the month after giving birth due to major hormonal fluctuations plus the stress of new motherhood. Especially true for first babies because even when you understand the hormonal impacts, it can really come as a surprise.

I think the concern about the baby's health and safety does matter and should have been a factor, but I think the bigger factor should have been that a woman deserves privacy and deference in the days following childbirth and should absolutely not be expected to entertain visitors if she doesn't want to, especially people she doesn't know well and who are just coming over to see the baby and give her mom ride.

There are very few things a woman could do in the first couple weeks (or maybe even a month) after giving birth that I would consider "rude" in the traditional sense. Our culture is so weird about childbirth and we have this extremely strange belief that women are totally unaffected by the experience and should be back to "normal" as soon as the baby is born. Other cultures have entire traditions built around the idea that a new mother needs extra support and deference for weeks or even months following birth, and the only expectations on the mom are to rest and feed/bond with her baby.

Team OP all the way. I would take a break from talking to my mom for a while after that message.[/quote]

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