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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My father is a retired big law partner, and when my moms parents, who lived nearby, were dying, he was there with her, and my grandparents, who loved him, [b]as much as he could be.[/b] Your friends husband sounds like a d*ck.[/quote]

OP here. I should have known that DCUM would twist what I said into a slam on my friend. I feel for her and think he's a jerk. But that doesn't put food on the table nor does it keep her in the house.

That's the key phrase: "[b]as much as he could be[/b]". But what if, like my friend, the wife demands more than what the DH can give. Law partners have deals to get done or need to take a case to trial; doctors have research to conduct and patients to treat.

You can't say "sorry your Honor, my wife is having trouble dealing with her Dad passing away over six months ago so I can't take the case to trial and I need a continuance". Or "sorry Stage IV Cancer patient, my wife spent the morning crying so I wasn't able to design your drug regimen yet". We like to talk in ideals, but the world is complicated. That's what I was trying to explain to my friend, because holding her husband to her standard of what her husband SHOULD be, when he brings in so much money. Why push him to the point where he wants to take away your health insurance, your time with the kids, your ability to live in your beautiful house? Why?[/quote]

LOL, that's exactly what he can do--more or less. He must work at a shit firm or be a poor partner if he doesn't have a deep well of resources to draw on, in other partner and associate relationships, to make sure he's there for his family. I work at one of the most cut-throat firms but let me tell you, the most successful partners step away for their families and trust their colleagues to handle when there's a crisis. I'm not saying you bow out of trial, but if you're a good enough lawyer that stuff becomes easy at some point. You take care of your family. That's literally the most important thing.[/quote]

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