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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.[/quote]

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, [b]control, your diet[/b] and lift weights.  You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia.  1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.  [/quote]

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.[/quote]

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here.  Good grief.[/quote]

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?[/quote]

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.[/quote]

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative. [/quote]

So not like OP then.  [/quote]

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.[/quote]

Is that what he asked us to figure out? PP’s husband eats vegetables for dinner and isn’t a body builder. OP has made it abundantly clear he is. So if you read, you can see it’s different. Good day to you too![/quote]

Yeah it is what he asked. Here you go: "Anyone ever have this issue if you're way more in shape than your spouse and they try to torpedo your enthusiasm for your fitness? How'd you handle it?"

There's noting specific about body building. It's simply about shape and fitness and the impact at home and how others handle it. How can we address that without knowing the full impact of his religion at home and how it affects spouse?[/quote]

You seem to be the only one who missed all the talk about heavy weights, shredded, and vascularity. That’s building muscle and cutting fat.

Sometimes people don’t like when their spouses get more fit than them. I say it’s as simple as that. If it’s more, the wife needs to use her words and say it.[/quote]

Uh, no I responded to that earlier, why would you think I hadn't? But notably OP hasn't really come back to the post so what else is there to say? Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird. His wife is unhappy and it's probably more than him hitting the gym when she's not even around  to see it. She doesn't like his new body and is vocal about it but it seems clear there's more going on given how passionately OP is talking about his overall health, the importance of fitness, how impressed he is with his own body, yet can't seem to connect the dots as to why is wife isn't supportive. [/quote]

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