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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

No, meat head. I never said all. Tons of projection indeed.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Wow we are a screwed up country. The person who doesn’t want to eat a crummy 2000 calorie meal with no nutrients is the one getting criticized.

Psss... the person has an eating disorder. He just won't admit it. Talk about screwed up.

Funny how you actually didn’t mention that earlier. If OP doesn’t have an eating disorder, there is no comparison.

I think it was implied that it was outside the norm. What part of plate of raw vegetables sounds normal for dinner?

Guys, is it gay to eat salad?

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

Because all those people with kids in the house who are running/training have friction? Isn’t that your belief? I’m sorry things are unpleasant in your house. Truly. But there is tons of projection here.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

Why would i think that based on what i said? If you have kids and a spouse time consuming hobbies can be a drag on the family. YMMV.

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

Do you really think everyone who runs the Marine Corp marathon is either childless or has grown children? (Just as an example).

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Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

That’s for the clarification nobody needed. Plenty of people-including tons of my friends-figure this all out. You just don’t hear about it.

Meanwhile, drama llamas decide it all works one way and there is discord and rancor in every relationship. Turns out you are wrong.

Anonymous wrote:OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

The issue people have friction at home is because the majority of married couples have kids and suddenly this wonderful hobby means the child care and labor division becomes severely imbalanced. Thus, friction. OP has no kids. So maybe he should just get divorced since he doesn't seem to think much of his wife and her slovenly ways and maybe someone else will really appreciate the vascularity and shredding that he is so proud of.

OP really is a very bad example. Not everybody that finds the time to start or return to a high level of activity that they enjoy is “going to find friction at home.” That happens as a general issue BROADLY if there is something else problematic. And, sometimes it’s one of the two partners projecting - and it goes both ways.

Meanwhile, there are tons of people that have no issue with these arrangements. You just don’t hear about it. Funny how that works out.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here. Good grief.

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative.

So not like OP then.

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.

Is that what he asked us to figure out? PP’s husband eats vegetables for dinner and isn’t a body builder. OP has made it abundantly clear he is. So if you read, you can see it’s different. Good day to you too!

Yeah it is what he asked. Here you go: "Anyone ever have this issue if you're way more in shape than your spouse and they try to torpedo your enthusiasm for your fitness? How'd you handle it?"

There's noting specific about body building. It's simply about shape and fitness and the impact at home and how others handle it. How can we address that without knowing the full impact of his religion at home and how it affects spouse?

You seem to be the only one who missed all the talk about heavy weights, shredded, and vascularity. That’s building muscle and cutting fat.


Sometimes people don’t like when their spouses get more fit than them. I say it’s as simple as that. If it’s more, the wife needs to use her words and say it.

Uh, no I responded to that earlier, why would you think I hadn't? But notably OP hasn't really come back to the post so what else is there to say? Basically anyone who gets super into a new fitness regime like marathons, triathlons, cycling, cross fit, or whatever probably finds friction at home. Acting like this is unique to just bodybuilding is weird. His wife is unhappy and it's probably more than him hitting the gym when she's not even around to see it. She doesn't like his new body and is vocal about it but it seems clear there's more going on given how passionately OP is talking about his overall health, the importance of fitness, how impressed he is with his own body, yet can't seem to connect the dots as to why is wife isn't supportive.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here. Good grief.

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative.

So not like OP then.

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.

Is that what he asked us to figure out? PP’s husband eats vegetables for dinner and isn’t a body builder. OP has made it abundantly clear he is. So if you read, you can see it’s different. Good day to you too!

Yeah it is what he asked. Here you go: "Anyone ever have this issue if you're way more in shape than your spouse and they try to torpedo your enthusiasm for your fitness? How'd you handle it?"

There's noting specific about body building. It's simply about shape and fitness and the impact at home and how others handle it. How can we address that without knowing the full impact of his religion at home and how it affects spouse?

You seem to be the only one who missed all the talk about heavy weights, shredded, and vascularity. That’s building muscle and cutting fat.


Sometimes people don’t like when their spouses get more fit than them. I say it’s as simple as that. If it’s more, the wife needs to use her words and say it.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here. Good grief.

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative.

So not like OP then.

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.

Is that what he asked us to figure out? PP’s husband eats vegetables for dinner and isn’t a body builder. OP has made it abundantly clear he is. So if you read, you can see it’s different. Good day to you too!

Yeah it is what he asked. Here you go: "Anyone ever have this issue if you're way more in shape than your spouse and they try to torpedo your enthusiasm for your fitness? How'd you handle it?"

There's noting specific about body building. It's simply about shape and fitness and the impact at home and how others handle it. How can we address that without knowing the full impact of his religion at home and how it affects spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here. Good grief.

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative.

So not like OP then.

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.

Is that what he asked us to figure out? PP’s husband eats vegetables for dinner and isn’t a body builder. OP has made it abundantly clear he is. So if you read, you can see it’s different. Good day to you too!

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Wow we are a screwed up country. The person who doesn’t want to eat a crummy 2000 calorie meal with no nutrients is the one getting criticized.

Psss... the person has an eating disorder. He just won't admit it. Talk about screwed up.

Funny how you actually didn’t mention that earlier. If OP doesn’t have an eating disorder, there is no comparison.

I think it was implied that it was outside the norm. What part of plate of raw vegetables sounds normal for dinner?

Sounds way better than 2000 empty calories truthfully. One is more socially accepted in the US.

Well, we aren't rabbits so its not necessary to eat like one. Sometimes a little dairy, carbs, and protein can be good. All things in moderation.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it hard to believe that OP has completely transformed his body with adding lots of bulk, muscularity, bulging veins on lifting 1hr a day and a little cardio. There are probably a lot of dietary and lifestyle changes going on as well that aren't being mentioned. The wife is probably wondering what happened to the guy she married and who this stranger is.

Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Lol. Or you could just eat less and smaller portion sizes of the same foods your spouse eats. You can also cutout all booze and snacks which would minorly impact your spouse as well.

So much hyperbole and ASS-U-mptions being made here. Good grief.

Talk about ASSumptions. My husband mostly only eats grain free cereal at home and raw vegetables. I'm not subjecting myself or kids to that diet. We just roll our eyes at him because he won't be talked out of it. Does this sound healthy and sane?

Seems unlikely that your body builder husband eats no protein. Also, no sure you’ve made a connection to OP’s eating.

I didn't say my husband was a body builder. Do you often struggle with reading comprehension? I said someone "like" this who has a vanity project. His project is being very lean and toned. His "working out" goes beyond just 1.5 hours a day and seeps into other areas of his life. Perhaps OP is like that too and it becomes undestandable why his wife is being negative.

So not like OP then.

Are you OP? If not, then what are you talking about? OP has not responded to questions about diet, lifestyle, or changes at home. We have no idea why his wife is being so negative but clearly there's more going on. Have a good day.

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Perfectly possible. You will get vascular if you cut your body fat%, control, your diet and lift weights. You don't have to look like Mr. Olympia. 1 hour per day everyday is definitely enough to add significant bulk. No, you're not going to be entering into body building competitons, but it's enough to add bulk of you're lifing heavy and doing good exercises like squats, deadlifts, bench presses, pullups, rows, etc.

Control your diet. You said it right there. OP has obviously incorporated his mindset into other areas of his life and this isn't just something he privately does at the gym with no impact on his spouse. I'm married to someone like this. He won't eat the family dinner. He eats a very specific diet unappealing to the rest of us. It's kind of a drag. He doesn't like to eat out anywhere and if he does will eat a plate of basically raw vegetables so we have to go to specific places that meet his standards, all for his vanity project it's not like an allergy. If OP used to enjoy dinner with his spouse and now doesn't anymore it can be a buzz kill.

Wow we are a screwed up country. The person who doesn’t want to eat a crummy 2000 calorie meal with no nutrients is the one getting criticized.

Psss... the person has an eating disorder. He just won't admit it. Talk about screwed up.

Funny how you actually didn’t mention that earlier. If OP doesn’t have an eating disorder, there is no comparison.

I think it was implied that it was outside the norm. What part of plate of raw vegetables sounds normal for dinner?

Sounds way better than 2000 empty calories truthfully. One is more socially accepted in the US.