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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know what the OP's solution is. My parents were in the same boat four years ago. They lived in the house I grew up in; had $5M in the bank; and were just barely hanging on health-wise (they're now mid to late 80s). My mother had dementia but wouldn't admit it, and my dad had very compromised mobility due to neuropathy. My mom ended up breaking her hip, and now, fast forward 4 years, they live in Assisted Living here burning cash. I hate it, they're miserable (well my mom doesn't know where she is, so who knows)--but what exactly is the alternative? Attestupa? At the time I was begging them to move to an independent living facility, but nothing would have changed. They end up in these rapacious AL facilities or we take care of them. That's what our medical system + a private equity-built eldercare system gives us. I think my only general regret is that we don't live in a more close-knit community--family or village--that handles these burdens collectively. Although, of course, at the time when that existed, most people died in their seventies.[/quote]

Interesting that you wish you had a community who would take care of your family for you and I assume for free. [/quote]

Not the PP you are responding to but... I think we need this. Not care for free, but care by a non profit instead of a profit making company, perhaps. [/quote]

Nonprofits have plenty of corruption and astronomically high salaries too.

Nobody out there wants to work with someone who becomes abusive and could assault them, yet people are on their soapboxes shouting about how cruel it is to medicate the elderly so they will be compliant and respectful with caregivers. There are plenty of people willing to help out with babies, even though we pay our daycare workers and other caregivers terribly, but we have a real crisis with elderly living so long in terrible shape.  I should have the right the decide that I don't want to become abusive toward my family and caregivers and I don't want to decline to the point of being unable to do anything independently. I want the right to sign someone that once I decline to a certain level I can end my life humanely.[/quote]

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