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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.[/quote]

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level.  Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years.  You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass.  You are so predictable, as are others like you.  I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.[/quote]

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?[/quote]

+1. I would have refused to return after one visit. Reminds me of a camper vacation to Mexico I took with some friends of my parents who thought I'd love to spend my first spring break in college with them. It was the longest, most boring week of my life. They got drunk every day and there was absolutely nothing to do so I read my textbooks. Never again will I go anywhere on vacation without modern plumbing and fun things to do. [/quote]

Equally horrific and you were a young college student. Who on earth would think that was fun?[/quote]

I don't know and the wife was a high school friend of my mom so I didn't want to hurt her feelings. They were building a beach home there but it was years away from being finished. I still remember how she was making them Bloody Marys as he drove the camper down those crappy roads. The beach wasn't even swimmable. Sigh.[/quote]

Wow what a nightmare and you were stuck there for a week!  As a college student it's not like you have the $ to get yourself out of there.[/quote]

So stuck. Just prayed we'd get back because it was in the middle of nowhere and I didn't speak Spanish or have any money. No cell phones. [/quote]

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