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Anonymous wrote:Why isn't DH expected to mow?

My take is that he is/was, and that there is a lot of land, maybe with different corners or glades or whatever, and all able-bodied adults take a turn or have an area. Now that MIL isn't able-bodied, they were more heavily expecting OP to do the same amount of work she has done in the past. It's fine to ask, but not fine to expect or pressure.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

+1. I would have refused to return after one visit. Reminds me of a camper vacation to Mexico I took with some friends of my parents who thought I'd love to spend my first spring break in college with them. It was the longest, most boring week of my life. They got drunk every day and there was absolutely nothing to do so I read my textbooks. Never again will I go anywhere on vacation without modern plumbing and fun things to do.

Equally horrific and you were a young college student. Who on earth would think that was fun?

I don't know and the wife was a high school friend of my mom so I didn't want to hurt her feelings. They were building a beach home there but it was years away from being finished. I still remember how she was making them Bloody Marys as he drove the camper down those crappy roads. The beach wasn't even swimmable. Sigh.

Wow what a nightmare and you were stuck there for a week! As a college student it's not like you have the $ to get yourself out of there.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

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Anonymous wrote:It was me. I wrote the post.

I am appropriately chastised for my inappropriate use of sarcasm and very much hope that the in-laws do NOT cut off OP and her DH. I hope they continue to send her ragey texts suggesting that she’s a lazy freeloader for taking advantage of their years of “generosity” in letting her come work their land on “vacation.”

You should quit while you're ahead.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

I’m all set, thanks! They could leave us nothing and it would be absolutely no problem. Perhaps your situation is different, but not all of us are counting on inheritances and cower at the idea of not getting one. -OP

Geez OP I was with you until this post. Wtf?

I’m with OP. How was she supposed to respond to “maybe they’ll disinherit you for your awful behavior”? A+ work here.

NP. It was very clearly sarcasm, and it should have been responded to as sarcasm.

That being said, I suspect OP was reading quickly and may be feeling a little raw about putting a story up on DCUM. (Understandably.) So I can see why she would have misread, but it was clearly a misreading.

NP. I didn't read it as sarcasm, especially with the additional posters saying things like "oh another MIL story, yawn." I really didn't read it as sarcasm. Just my two cents.

I know it's an anonymous forum and all, but I wouldn't be bragging about that if I were you. If you didn't understand that "Getting a little teary for you. Sniff." was sarcasm, I'm not sure what to say. And you don't have the (very charitable) excuse that the PP suggested, that the OP was a little raw.

Your joke sucked, and didn’t land. Just walk it off, friend. No charity required

Her post was fine, sorry you don’t get sarcasm. OP’s response was real Tuesday-ish too, IYKWIM

Dig in. It still wasn’t funny. I do get sarcasm. I also know most people aren’t very good at it, and it is not generally used well. that was def a swing and a miss. It read critical. You might want to practice more.

NP. It was so very obviously sarcastic…I’m confused how anyone could read it otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

+1. I would have refused to return after one visit. Reminds me of a camper vacation to Mexico I took with some friends of my parents who thought I'd love to spend my first spring break in college with them. It was the longest, most boring week of my life. They got drunk every day and there was absolutely nothing to do so I read my textbooks. Never again will I go anywhere on vacation without modern plumbing and fun things to do.

Equally horrific and you were a young college student. Who on earth would think that was fun?

I don't know and the wife was a high school friend of my mom so I didn't want to hurt her feelings. They were building a beach home there but it was years away from being finished. I still remember how she was making them Bloody Marys as he drove the camper down those crappy roads. The beach wasn't even swimmable. Sigh.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

+1. I would have refused to return after one visit. Reminds me of a camper vacation to Mexico I took with some friends of my parents who thought I'd love to spend my first spring break in college with them. It was the longest, most boring week of my life. They got drunk every day and there was absolutely nothing to do so I read my textbooks. Never again will I go anywhere on vacation without modern plumbing and fun things to do.

Equally horrific and you were a young college student. Who on earth would think that was fun?

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Anonymous wrote:Good for you, OP, and please tell us more! Did ILs purchase this land? For what purpose? Are they planning to build there eventually? What didn't they like about the trees they cut down? My ILs also cut down some mature trees for no reason, but just from their regular home.

This. I'm dying to know more about these people.

I'm gonna hijack with my own story...
A coworker I know married a rwnj who believes all the black people who live in dc, whom he is terrified of, are going to march from DC to the Loudoun suburbs to murder white people. He bought land in WV to escape to. There was a store-bought shed on it and he plans for he and his wife to "retire" to this shed that has no electricity or running water and is the size of, well, a shed. He spent a lot of time cutting down trees and planting new trees. He's also a hoarder of all things but particularly guns and ammo. They spent every weekend and holiday for years doing things to this shed and mowing the land etc. We were invited to visit so spouse and I along with our very young kids could help. No way in hell.

Anonymous wrote:You posters arguing back and forth are ruining what could be an epic post.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

+1. I would have refused to return after one visit. Reminds me of a camper vacation to Mexico I took with some friends of my parents who thought I'd love to spend my first spring break in college with them. It was the longest, most boring week of my life. They got drunk every day and there was absolutely nothing to do so I read my textbooks. Never again will I go anywhere on vacation without modern plumbing and fun things to do.

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Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

It’s okay that you didn’t get it, really. Nobody gets every single joke. That’s why a poster very nicely explained it. Now you’re just coming off as the loudmouth who heckles the comedian. Take your scolding elsewhere. Some of us were enjoying the show.

There's a bunch of us that didn't get the "sarcasm". If it has to be explained, it's poorly done.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they’ll disinherit your DH for your awful behavior and you’ll never be able to “vacation” there again. Getting a little teary for you. Sniff.

This post was a supporter, OP. They were joking - “oh, wouldn’t it be suuuuch a shame if you were disinherited/banned & forbidden from going to that amaaaaazing place ever again?” (Ie - it would not be a shame, it would be great & the perfect solution since it sucks anyway).
Geez, you didn’t need to jump down their throat, I think you read a little too quickly to realize they were on your side.

I'm not OP, but I didn't read it that way at all. There ARE people who will do things for the inheritance.

Stop jumping all over the OP. She responded appropriately to a rude post. If posters don't get your sarcasm, then you didn't write it well enough.

Tons of people got the joke. You and a small band of scolds didn't.

Scolds. Ok. That’s kind.

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Anonymous wrote:For years, my ILs have “hosted” “vacations” at their property in West Virginia. There is a camper on this massive land: that’s it. We don’t even stay there, we stay in a nearby hotel. The “vacation” is really to check that the land is OK. They also insist on “working” the land that has nothing on it. They mow with huge mowers, plant trees (um, after they cut down lots of trees to “clear” the “land”) and generally complain that people clearly use it as something of a hunting grounds when they aren’t around. They live multiple states away, and visit it only 2-3 times a year. There is a freaking outhouse.

All time that isn’t spent working the land is spent sitting around outside the camper, under a makeshift big awning thing, and waiting to eat stuff out of coolers. It’s boring as hell. The kids liked it well enough when they were young enough to think picking cherries, looking at the stream, and catching dragonflies in a net was cool. We are very quickly outgrowing that stage. We bring games and stuff, but really, it’s just boring.

Now that the kids are old enough that it’s not exactly hard for DH to “vacation” with them on his own, I am—for the first time in 12 years (excluding one COVID summer)—skipping this trip to stay behind on my own and have a grand ol’ time going out to dinner with friends and catching up on relaxing and TV.

ILs just called to ask if I would come because MIL is now too infirm to run one of the big mowers, and they were planning on me to mow at least one huge field, as I always have done. I’m like, no, but if you want I’ll send you the names of some landscaping and mowing companies in the area. They are furious and called me “selfish.” I told them not to bother texting me again unless it’s an apology. I’m torn between being mad that they’ve used me for free labor for years and have the audacity to call me “selfish” for taking one year off, and finding the whole thing hilarious.

Not that it matters, but you seem like a hug "snot" on every level. Just your description of your time there says everything anyone needs to know about you and I am guessing your in-laws have put up with you for family peace for many years. You are also the first one to be standing in line screaming for your poor husband's share of this "shithole" of a faction site once the in-laws pass. You are so predictable, as are others like you. I hope your mother in law never contacts you again.

The only thing that I agree with you on is the last sentence. It sounds horrible and how rude of them to expect their family to make this their vacation. I love to be outside but this sounds ridiculous.

Op, come back and tell us more about these people. Is this their "bug out" spot?

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Anonymous wrote:I hope we all learned that sarcasm doesn't work in text the way it works in voice or in your head.

Up your comedy game, people.

It’s okay that you didn’t get it, really. Nobody gets every single joke. That’s why a poster very nicely explained it. Now you’re just coming off as the loudmouth who heckles the comedian. Take your scolding elsewhere. Some of us were enjoying the show.

There's a bunch of us that didn't get the "sarcasm". If it has to be explained, it's poorly done.