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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have a full, enriching life outside of your kids, you are either a negligent parent or a rich one (or both). [/quote]

That’s just nonsense.  You don’t need to be jetting off to Tahiti kid free to have a full and enriching life.  For example a woman who plays an instrument for pleasure, volunteers every other Sunday at a food kitchen and goes to a monthly book club with her girlfriends to chat about books and drink some wine could easily see her life as full and enriching, and that in no way takes away from her as a mom.  It may require a supportive spouse but it doesn’t require wealth.[/quote]

I agree with you and I think this was one of the PP’s mistakes. If she’d said “I think it’s valuable to have a life outside your kids, whether that’s a hobby, friendships, alone time or all of the above,” I don’t think there would have been push back.

But phrasing it as “you must have a full life outside your kids” and then focusing on stuff like kid-free travel, lots of date nights, etc., just made it sound like an out of touch rich person. Any parent can carve out space for themselves, even if it’s just treating yourself to a good book after the kids go to bed or taking an online class or trading playdates with another parent so you can exercise or see a movie. But the vast majority of parents can’t do kid-free travel or hire a sitter multiple nights a week. Some can’t even get their spouse to take the kids for the night (long hours or they are a single parent or their spouse is just a selfish jerk). But anyone can read a book or adopt a hobby.[/quote]

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