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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she’s married, yes, confront.  It will scare the sh@t out of her that you might tell her husband.  You don’t have to be crazy or loony.  You are just some abstract person to them- not someone who is real with kids and a life and emotions.

Then, decide what you want to do.  But, advice is usually for all 4 involved to know (both betrayed spouses) so there are two sets of eyes on the problem if the betrayed spouses choose to reconcile.

It’s par for the course that someone with no empathy or character would blame you.  It’s almost comical in that sense.  You really can see the borderline personality disorder firsthand.  It’s everyone else’s fault.  They will try sympathy first and then lash out in anger when that doesn’t work.

The only proper response by an OW/OM (and spouse):  I’m so sorry.  But, none have empathy or character to say that.

They will often lie to try to hurt you more. You aren’t going to get any truth out of them.[/quote]

You know what, empathy is a two way street. It’s amusing how the wives are all up on a soap box about how the OW has no empathy for the wife’s feelings while portray Ming the OW like some cartoon villain and not another real person whom her DH snowed.[/quote]

The DHs snowed them? They knew he was married.  Most were married too.  There was no snowing.  Only disappointment they couldn’t get him to leave.  Christ.  Blameless til the bitter end.[/quote]

Case in point. You’d rather draw caricatures than think about the other people involved as people. Only you are real and have feelings clearly.[/quote]

You can’t knowingly and willing seek out sex with a married guy and then when it blows up claim he snowed you.  You also are t of good character or have empathy when you knowingly seek that out.  Period.  That’s not a caricature.  Those are facts which you don’t want to face.

Trust me- I had countless propositions from wealthy good looking powerful married men in my life and not once would I ever consider it. I thought they were slime for asking and felt really bad for their wife and kids.  I certainly wasn’t out looking for married D like the cheaters on this board.

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