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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - they basically said we know you’re going to be in x state and so we’ve arranged to go on vaca from there after Xmas so we can come join you for Xmas and the day after. 
I feel like I’m gonna have to talk to my parents and say we just need to suck it up that they join. It feels too mean to say you can’t come. My feeling is they shouldn’t expect to come - but clearly they do so given that fact I think we prob just need to accept it [/quote]

You should have told them last year. You taught them that their behavior is acceptable, and your failure to set boundaries back then has come back to bite you.

I think you need to put them on an information diet. Tell them very clearly that they are not to come, and don't tell them anything about where you will be on what date and what time. If they do show up, you will have to tell them very clearly that they are not wanted, and not let them in. It's going to be hard, but with boundary-trampling entitled selfish people, clarity is the kindest option.[/quote]

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