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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

Wow sounds like someone needs a good fk and new hubby

Yes, I agree the teacher who first posted could probably use some relaxation. As for me, I like my job just fine and I've never had to ask a low wage, low skill worker for advice on raising my child.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

Wow sounds like someone needs a good fk and new hubby

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Wowwwww sounds like someone needs a whaaambulance and a new job.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Anonymous wrote:I feel totally out of control with my four year old. He turned four in September and doesn’t listen to me. The worst part of the day is getting dressed. He refuses. I have to get him dressed like a baby and he starts kicking me. He has been kicking me a lot lately. He’s been going into the fridge and grabbing an entire package of cheese or something as I’m making dinner. I say no and he thinks it’s a joke and runs away. Never listens. Getting him to take a bath has been impossible. Also kicks and screams. I got a reward chart thing but he’s not motivated by the stickers or the reward at the end of the month. I feel like his behavior isn’t normal and that he’s going to be the “bad” kid in class. (At preschool teacher says he’s good) if I could pay someone to come help me deal with him I would- someone who could tell me what to do. But I don’t know if anyone like that exists aside from the super nanny tv show

Anonymous wrote:Op again. So give me an example. If he hits me or kicks me do I give him a time out? (For us time out means going in your room) sometimes he doesn’t care ither times he hangs on the door. Feel like we’ve tried this so many times and the behavior didn’t change. What is something I do in the moment?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.

Teacher here of 15 years- I am SO sick of parents asking for help how to raise children. What happens in your home is because of the environment you’ve created- it’s on you. I’m with your child 7 hours a day and have figured out how to take control of the situation and manage a room full of children in a warm/loving yet stern way. But if you can’t handle your own child, that’s on you so please stop encouraging the OP to put even more on teachers plates. Half the time, you waste our time and don’t implement what we suggest and the behaviors begin to manifest into the classroom and then your child ends up kicking me when I’m 35 weeks pregnant (yes this has happened). We are a child’s teacher, therapist, caretaker (yes I have given children snacks because parents don’t give them enough food) but I’m not also going to be their parents therapist for $60,000 a year. Do your homework, read books and follow through and stop outsourcing help. Bringing a super nanny in isn’t going to change the relationship you’ve established with your child.

OP-all I have to say is remove all TV’s from your house and explain to the child why this is happening. Let your child go outdoors to play instead and spend quality time (off your phone) and play with him. If he kicks say that really hurt mom, we do not kick, playtime is over and take away something your child loves. But basically you have to be present. Get off your phones, screens etc and get to know one another. That’s my advice- now it’s up to you to make it happen.

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have a pediatrician? You say he's in preschool - are there not teachers there? Instead of asking strangers on the internet for advice on how to parent your child through what sounds like a difficult series of emotional patterns and behaviors, consult a professional who knows him personally. You can't outsource stuff like this and there is no one-size fits all approach. Any worthwhile pediatrician will work with you on behavioral issues - it is part of development and health - or refer you to someone, if necessary. Also words like "good" or "bad kid" are definitely not going to help anyone.