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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't normally reccomend this but in your situation, Laura Doyle could really help.

Get a coach and join the community. Scores of women married to men on the spectrum there. It could be like a whole new marriage in a matter of months. [/quote]

Agreed. This approach works well with men like this. Little responsibility and a lot of praise. [/quote]

The benefit of this approach is that while you don't get the help you need because it will never happen (he can't focus on this many people), you might get a better connection between your children and their dad and you with him. [/quote] I’d rather bang my head against a wall.[/quote]

+1    I pretty much live like this, and I need to find a way to get out.   I don't know if my husband would qualify for this diagnosis, or if he's just an immature jerk (so many similarities to people describing their partners here but I just don't know) , but I wanted a PARTNER in life.  Not a perpetual child that pouts when they aren't massaged enough.   I just lost all feelings and don't want it anymore. 
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I'm the first PP here who reccomended LD.

The responding PP does not understand the program, evidenced in her reply.

Ask any of the tens of thousands of women that have had success with the LD approach/coaching in marriages to men with suspected ASD or an actual diagnosis.

They 100% CAN be connected and devoted to you. To helping you. To doing whatever you wish, they'll rise to the occasion. You kight spend some time feeling like you're massaging his ego and getting no results, but for those that have forged on you can see a real change in how he relates to you. Then you just have to keep it going.

That's why the women in these coaching circles describe themselves as feeling "empowered." We roll our eyes because LD is essentially the queen of anti-feminism, right? But these are not meek women. These are not all SAHMs or ultra-religious women who refuse to divorce lest they be shunned by their community. There are some of those, of course, but there are absolutely more bread-winning women that have been doing it all and keeping it going until they hit a wall of frustration and exhaustion. They try LD as a last resort prior to throwing in the towel. That's generally where you see the magic happen.

While LD has no children, virtually every other woman in the program and all of the coaches do. So please don't think the issues surrounding childcare aren't a big part of it. Many of these women figured out their husbands were ASD when their child received a diagnosis. [/quote]

DP but thanks for this post, it's helpful info. [/quote]

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