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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are a prude. When everyone is a consenting adult, who cares? I am a guy. When I was 24, I dated a 40 year old woman. It was a fling and it was hot, absolutely nobody was a victim. I was not "groomed."

Just because some women here are not attracted to younger men does not make an older person "yucky" for dating a younger adult.[/quote]

Grooming is a real thing. You may or may not have been groomed most victims of grooming never realize it.

And yes it does make the older person yucky.[/quote]

Your statement here reduces the agency of adults to children. Young adults have enough agency to sign up for the military and be trained to kill other people. Yet those same young adults lack the agency to engage in a consensual relationship with another, older adult? That position is absurd.  [/quote]

The current trend is to think of people younger than 25 as not fully having the agency of an adult. I think your view is going to look outdated and gross in the coming decades. [/quote]

So a 23 year old shouldn't be able to vote, serve on a jury, or join the military? What is a decision of greater import; choosing to have consensual sex with a 40-year-old or sitting on a jury that decides to convict or acquit a person charged with murder? I remember being 23, I was not a child. Were you just wandering around like a babe in the woods during your early 20s, incapable of making any adult decisions?[/quote]

When I was 14, I was legally old enough to consent to sex, and old enough to get a job in my state. Today, a 14 year old can still get a job, but they cannot consent to sex. That is the current trend.

When I was 23 I was just out of college and naive about many things. I suffered sexual harassment at work from a client. I’m guessing he wisely guessed so young and inexperienced a girl wouldn’t report him, and I didn’t. That’s how age gaps work. The older person has the power.

I don’t think we are going to move the age of consent up to 25 or anything like that, but I do think age gaps are becoming more stigmatized. [/quote]

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