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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow this sounds like my own wedding from last month - took place in Europe, blocked hotel for $150/night, no kids allowed, guests had to wear autumn colors. Honestly we told our guests they were not expected to give a gift since it was a destination wedding, but a lot of people did give anyway and we did notice who did and who didn’t give. It was understandable for younger people in their 20s not to give but for older established folks, it was pretty awkward to see.

Unfortunately since it sounds like it’s not a destination wedding and the couple didn’t let you off the hook, I agree that you may as well suck it up and just do a 150$ gift. [/quote]

If they are not expected to give a gift, you should not notice who doesn’t give gifts.

Frankly, you seem to have thrown the wedding you want and people went along with it, so you should be happy. [/quote]

NP- I noticed who didn't give gifts because I wrote thank you notes.  Do people not do this anymore?  My wedding was in DC but family travelled in to attend, I don't care if they didn't give one, I'm just glad they came.  But yeah I knew because I didn't want to miss thanking people.[/quote]

+1. I noticed who didn't give gifts or what each person gave as a gift because we sent thank you notes promptly (within 4-6 weeks of our wedding) to every person who gave a gift specifically thanking them for the actual gift they gave). To do this I had to keep a detailed list as we opened our gifts but it was important to me to make sure to thank everyone w/ a personal note mentioning their gift (not just a generic "thank you for your gift").

It has been 10 years since my wedding and while I still remember who was at our wedding, I no longer remember who gave us what gifts or who didn't give a gift as that really wasn't important to me.[/quote]

Everyone should have received a thank you note for spending any excessive amount of money to watch you get married.[/quote]

Ok but I would write that differently. If I just sent a generic "thank you for attending my wedding" note and did not thank them specifically for the gift, I'd be bombarded by relatives asking if I had received their gift too.[/quote]

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