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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m interested in the nature vs. nurture thing, particularly work ethic.

Dud XDH, his mom and two siblings all lack anything resembling a work ethic. I could tell stories, but I don’t want to out them. Suffice it to say, none of the three kids is really financially viable, although two of them hold down jobs at least. My parents and sibling are really hard working.

My DD has an amazing work ethic, attended a top ivy, has won merit scholarships to grad school, and so on. It’s hard to get DS off the sofa and at 25 he’s definitely not able to support himself.

What does DCUM say? Did I parent two kids completely differently? Is there something genetic going on?

I’ve googled the heredibility of work ethic and studies say different things.[/quote]

Possibly genetic, but [b]more likel[/b]y he learned from his male role model (dad)[/quote]

Disagree.  The older I get, the more I think these things are genetic.  I was a go getter and very motivated, but did not have all of life's advantages growing up.  I did as well as I could given what I had, and found my way.  DH, on the other had, did have all the advantages, family connections... you name it, but at his core was a dud.  He has a better pedigree than I do, and was able to get opportunities from either his good pedigree, family connections, family wealth, etc. but when the rubber's hit the road and we've gotten to the point where we've had to actually produce, I can accomplished more than he can hands down.  He does not appear to be a dud to the outside world because he's so propped up by his background.

Like the above poster, one of our kids is a dud, and one is a high achiever.  Parented the same way.  Both girls.  One got my traits, one his.  Personality is heritable.  Hopefully his family wealth will be enough to support the one that takes after him.[/quote]

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