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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the people saying single moms have it easy must have useless husbands. Or their own standards are so low that they would feed their kids hot dogs every night of their husband wasn’t around to notice.[/quote]

I’m the PP with the deployed spouse.  I didn’t say it was easy being a single mom.  I said it was easier in many ways though.  DH is absolutely an equal partner but it’s not needing to tend to another relationship that frees up a lot of time.  And we always eat good food but I’m far less picky than he is.  Lots of nights when he was deployed, the kids and I would have avocado and scrambled eggs or something premade from Trader Joe’s.

But yes, my cleaning standards are and we’re lax!  DH is the cleaner - not me.  [/quote]

Single moms date you know.  They too are cultivating relationships.[/quote]

I don't date. I don't have the money for a babysitter. Stop assuming things about groups of people. Most single parents do not have the money for outsourcing anything. In fact, my PT gigs are babysitting, pet sitting/dog walking, etc.[/quote]

I'm married and we don't outsource anything and never hire babysitters for date nights, because it's too expensive. A lot of these comments seem to assume either that marriage solves all your problems as a parent (it doesn't), or conversely that single parenthood would solve all your problems in life (it wouldn't).

I think some single moms have it easier than some married women. It depends on the marriage, your job and income, and other resources you might have (family and/or family money, for instance). I don't think someone automatically has it tough because they are a single mom. For instance, I know four women in their 40s who are single moms by choice, and they all have a ton of family support (like way, way more than I have ever had) and are incredibly financially stable. I'm sure there area times when they wish they had a partner, but in terms of parenting, all four of those women get more time to themselves, have more accessible childcare, and

That's really different than a single mom who divorced or left their kid's dad, especially if that dad is not contributing as he is supposed to (unfortunately common). I think that's what a lot of people picture when they hear "single mom" but that's not every single mom. Some, not all. And plenty of married people have incredible burdens that could absolutely make their lives as hard as even a struggling single mom's life. People whose spouses are abusive or have major mental health issues, for instance. It's not a contest between who has it hardest, and it's good to have empathy for anyone who is struggling.[/quote]

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