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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DP.

Just to be clear -- is someone really implying that you have to own a beach house to create good memories and a happy childhood for your children? Really, or am I misreading how the dichotomy is set up?

I'm not sure that people without beach houses are confined to mortgagor children. That's ... an odd take.[/quote]

I assume people who did not grow up with access to family vacation homes don’t really understand, so it’s easy to be dismissive about the experiences, memories and traditions. A rental is not the same thing, not even close. And also, if you’re miserable and hate where you’re from or are estranged from family, it’s even easier to be dismissive about all of this.[/quote]

You ... get that my family without a beach house head living and strong traditions, too? That gathering and shucking pecans with my grandmother, her hand on mine as we rolled out the poor dough, are cherished, right?

That our giant family reunions riverside -- without a beach house -- full of games and laughing cousins were amazing, chasing fireflies and my uncle playing the violin as dusk came down?

Do you admit that you, who did not experience it, don't really understand and find it easy to be dismissive of that?

It's there any way at all you can stretch your brain to understand that even, yes even!, someone in your social circle might have married into a family with different and cherished traditions, or even -- even! -- themselves remember and cherish something different from you? Any way at all?

Or is it really that just the wealth-related traditions that you happen to like are the only ones that count?

Are you just as prone to dismissing my experience because you did not share it? [/quote]

OP, cherish your beautiful memories. That said, you sound totally unhinged. Your siblings are allowed to have their own thoughts and feelings and they can make their own choices. You couldn't afford to buy them out. It's frustrating, but you have got to move on or you risk wasting a life ruminating. You are going to make yourself and those around you miserable with all this negativity. Is that the legacy YOU want? Are those the MEMORIES you want to create for your family? Life is about adapting to change. Be grateful you aren't adapting to things like your own cancer diagnosis, your child having severe special needs, your spouse on life support. It's a beach house. Nobody can take your memories from you. Enjoy the memories and stop ruining the present.[/quote]

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