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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son is almost never invited to b-day parties.  He has Asperger's and a hard time socially.  Frankly, when I've seen other kids his age at birthday parties or when he does actually go to one or at his own (small) parties, he's no more or less offensive than the other kids.  But I know he's hard to take (most kids don't want to discuss his obsessions of course).  He loves being around other kids and I can't think it doesn't hurt his feelings to hear the other kids talk about parties.  I understand why he's not at the top of the invitee list, but it sure is hard.[/quote]

I'm the dad of the 5-girl party getting flamed left and right here.

Let me just say that my dd, who has been alternately deemed a mean girl, a bitch, and a whole hosts of other nasties by the superior mothers on this board, counts a boy with asperger's in her class as one of her closest friends. In fact, she talked about inviting him to her party but decided he wouldn't like getting manicures and pedicures with a bunch of girls. So, we took him out to dinner with us one night separately.

What a little cold bitch, eh?[/quote]  I think you're ignoring that most people, myself included, think the fault here lies with YOU, not your daughter.  I do agree that people calling her names are out of line - for cryin' out loud people, she's 7.  But all the more reason for an adult to steer her in the right direction.  And unfortunately, you failed her.  But you seem incapable of any sort of mature self-reflection.  [/quote]

No, that's where you're wrong. You have no standing to assign "fault" because no wrong was done. Your perspective simply isn't valid. I didn't "fail" her. Where do you get that?

Please tell me what the lesson is in demanding a child invite someone to her party she doesn't want to have there? [/quote]

No wrong was done???? In your very first post, you said "I bet those other parents despise us." OP, you KNOW your daughter did something that wasn't nice. Now, you just covering up. 
No, that's where you're wrong. You have no standing to assign "fault" because no wrong was done. Your perspective simply isn't valid. I didn't "fail" her. Where do you get that? 
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