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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]10:04 - you missed my point.  I don't care when you had kids.  I don't care IF you have kids.  I was responding to a few nasty posters who were leveling nasty accusations about career women who waited too long to have kids.  Those accusations get tired and silly.  There are plenty of young moms out there, and that's great, but for a lot of us, that just wasn't how things turned out.  It's fine if you chose to have kids early - or didn't choose and had kids early anyway - but a lot of us didn't meet the guy in our 20's, or at all.  [b]I just think it's a silly myth that women should be blamed for their infertility because they "chose to wait" for too long - in most of the cases I know, it wasn't a choice, but a circumstance.[/b][/quote]
In some cases, this is true.  But, for the vast majority of the people that I know that are either in this situation, or came close to being in this situation (i.e., met the guy at 35-40, got married, had kids), it happened more like this:  Girl goes to law school and does really well.  Girl joins a law firm and works like crazy with no time to go out and meet people.  Spends late 20s at work, going out very rarely with a guy she knows isn't right, rarely going out with friends in a situation where she would just meet someone.  Girl prioritizes pleasing boss/clients, and gets golden handcuffs.  Girl turns 30.  Girl starts to realize that clock is ticking.  Girl doesn't yet want to give up job with long hours because that has become her life and she has the golden handcuffs.  Girl either tries to make partner, thus delaying more, or frantically starts internet dating.  In mid-thirties, and a bit desperate, it is hard to find a compatible person.  Some make it, and some don't.

I'm not judging.  This scenario describes most of my best friends.  Moreover, but for the grace of god, go I.  Instead, I was one who married so early that, even with waiting almost a decade, I was still fairly young to become a mom, for DC standards.  But, it is not wrong at all to say that these women are in this situation because they (like I) prioritized their career over having a family when they were younger.
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