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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a feminist MIL.  Both of my DIL are also feminists.  I adore them! One SAH.  One WOH.  Both are feminists.  Their decision on whether to work outside the home has nothing to do with it.  Admittedly, I would have had a hard time had my kids married the Trump type.  But, I would have kept my mouth shut.  Thankfully, my kids married smart, educated, strong, driven young women. [/quote]

What is a Trumpet wife? Someone is is conservative and a sahm?  Seriously you ended with the thing my MIL says driven. So if you sah you aren’t driven? I already have my degrees but this is judgy. Like oh she’s not working and showing a good example is literally what my MIL said? [/quote]

[b]Did you miss the part where I said one of them works?[/b]  They are both brilliant, [b]driven[/b], educated, and [b]driven[/b].  Working or staying at home has nothing to do with it. They made decisions that were best fir their families. [/quote]

I have no idea what a "Trump type" is given I know a wide range of women who voted for Trump, from the cliched blond SAHM to the career professional. Going by data, the typical Trump voting woman is a lower middle class to middle class working woman.

Back to the OP: no, I don't think being a feminist makes a better MIL. Because it has nothing to do with being a MIL. Unless you live in some cliched fantasy world where everyone lives by Hollywood stereotypes.

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PP 2 in the "driven" comment. you wrote that three times. What is driven to you? There's a lot of implication there. I can tell you again my feminist MIL comes to my house, expects to be taken out everyday shopping and then makes nasty remarks that my house is a mess with kids. What do I do with my time etc. Mind you its not a mess, it's some kid toys in the family room cramping her drinking habit. No mind that her son doesn't help. Thankfully I do have help in addition with a cleaning crew. The double standard is quite funny. She bosses her husband around and they have a nasty bad relationship. She has had to use her retirement to pay for his bad financial messes. But hey, at least she's in charge right? Personally, I think a better indicator, is your personal relationships. She has also said that driven word. That she showed her kids "a good example because I worked". In your opinion can a sahp be driven? At least you do recognize one of your DIL's made a personal decision. But the driven and working stuff tells me you unconsciously think it's better overall, except in some occasions.

I agree there is no Hollywood. I'm a high net UMC because I help my husband earning power while staying a home. We are 5%, maybe even 1%, depending on a DCUM day definition. I don't think feminist MILs make better MILs. People are people, and there is a lot of dysfunction around, so I don't think some mental theory to things is the key. How you deal with interpersonal relationship and whether or not you have self awareness and are kind, etc. Frankly, it would be like saying wow I've noticed conservatives are better at xyz. The premise is already loaded and nasty.  [/quote]

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