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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Feminism is about supporting women’s agency in making choices for their own lives, whatever they may be. If an MIL is a real feminist, she’ll embrace her DIL the way she is and become her supporter. I can’t think of a better gift than unconditional acceptance from any parent, no matter how they met their new child, by giving birth, by adoption or by law.[/quote] this is a relatively new concept in the women’s movement.  My mother fought for women to be able to stay in the workplace after marriage and children as she was forced out of her job after becoming pregnant with me in 1964.  In the 70’s women were finally able to get credit cards in their name. In the 1960’s women could get the pill IF they had permission of their husband. Unmarried women could not get it.  These are the things she and others fought for.  Many have trouble when a daughter or DIL chooses to sah because if feels like a betrayal to them for all the hard work it took to be able to be in the workplace.  My mother had a really hard time when I quit to SAH - and my children have SN -something DCUM tends to forgive if someone SAH when children are in school.  She understood it intellectually- but emotionally it was difficult for her.I think of her as a [b]real[/b] feminist even if you do not.

My generation had a hard time with SAH because we were supposed to be the Enjoli generation, (bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never let you forget your a man….’   We were told we could have it all and we could do it all. We had the hatchback babies - my son was born at noon on Monday and we were released at 9am Tuesday and no parental leave (paid or unpaid).  I still have my $.59 pin - I think women are now over $.75 to men’s $1 now.  That is progress.

My hope for the next wave is toward more equitable and affordable childcare options.  I like that this generation has more options for parental leave for everyone.    
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I’m sorry but no, you can’t have it all. The truth is your relationships with your children will just not be as close if you aren’t around. That’s the hard fact. Are you really going to wish you’d spent more time at work being a corporate monkey or some other such thing? I know I won’t. I won’t ever regret investing time into the relationship with my children. [/quote]

+1000.  “Having it all” is yet another lie of the left. [/quote]

Literally sitting next to my mom right now, who is one of my best friends. Guess I better tell her we aren’t as close as we think, because she worked outside of the home. And she didn’t even have to, she chose to! Bad mom, bad. (Yes, she’s a liberal). [/quote]

For the record, I am a liberal SAHM. It was just the right choice for our family. If I could have worked in formal work force, and given my children the level of care and advocacy they need, I would have preferred that. I know many adults have close relationships with mothers who worked in the formal work force. I actually feel guilty for not working outside the home in terms of being a role model.

I don’t judge other women for doing whatever they need to do for themselves and for their families. I hate the cultural mommy wars. [/quote]

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