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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This whole conversation makes me extremely anxious about my relationship with my future DILs/SILs.  Am i going to be expected to pay for time with my children in the future by footing the bill for everything always and if I don't I am A$$hole MIL?  Like if I want to plan a trip to go skiing, am I even allowed to ask if they want to come without assuming the costs for their flights, car, food, lift tickets, everything?  My only real splurge now is our family trips and there is no way in the future I can afford adding 3 spouses and all their children to the tab.  Isn't realistic to expect adults to pay some of their way?[/quote]

Not at all! The issue is that the in laws are presenting this as a huge gift that their children feel they cannot say no to without damaging the relationship. If the recipient is expected to drop thousands of dollars on this gift, when it’s not even what they would prefer to be doing in the first place, it is not a gift, it’s a family vacation, an obligatory one, and should be presented as such. [/quote]

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