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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you have to suck it up and go. This is your spouse's parent.

I have only had regret over not attending a funeral or other family milestone event.[/quote]

I've lost two family members I loved very much during COVID. It sucked royally watching their funerals on FB Live instead of flying across the country.

I still don't regret not going one bit, and my close extended family agree and understand.[/quote]

PP, I'm sorry for your losses. I also lost two family members in 2020 and 2021. One was my only sibling. I did not go to either funeral and family was fine -- in fact they said they did not want anyone traveling at those points in time. Very small services, local attendees only. No resentments.

I truly wonder if the people here so very shrilly yelling that there is zero reason ever to miss a funeral, OP must go or her marriage will die, her DH gets to call 100 percent of the shots, etc., actually have been bereaved during this pandemic and had to make the same choice that OP is facing. They certainly seem invested in dictating to her what she must do or her marriage and apparently all social norms will collapse. [/quote]

No one has said there is zero reason to miss a funeral. What people have said is this. Her husband has experienced a very difficult loss and specifically said he needs his family to be there. It is his father, not just some relative. Omicron isnt killing people, even little kids who aren’t vaccinated, so their kids lives are not at risk. They are not a particularly cautious family as evidenced by their recent air travel. OP’s reason for not wanting to go is that she’s tired but when your spouse tells you that they need you, you suck it up and rest later.

It sucks all around. But you don’t abandon your spouse when they tell you they need you.

I too would be so sad if my spouse had reacted as OP did and then crowd sourced whether she should go.  Honestly it never would have crossed my mind to stay home. I am guessing that those who think it’s ok havent lost a parent and lack the imagination to foresee just how difficult it is. [/quote]

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