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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m not understanding this. OPs aunt was in a subpar hospice then moved to a better hospice. Great. OPs parents want to live at home, despite the fact that she feels they would get more support at a facility, and thinks someone should be forcing them into this facility?

This sounds really stressful but I’m not sure what can reasonably be done when two stubborn elderly have decided they are staying in their home. [/quote]

My parents wanted to stay at home but now realize due to their failing health, that they need to compromise. Finally. They will not go to a ‘facility’. They can afford their own condo in community specifically for older seniors that provides socialization, meals, etc. and will bring someone in to help them when needed. They will now be very close to family for additional support. The cash from the SF home they are selling will be more than enough.  There are many solutions out there for elders that don’t involve a nursing home[/quote]

I hope they read the fine print. My parents thought that was a great compromise. But typically, those places will not permit people who cannot physically care for each other or themselves to live independently and will force them into the skilled nursing care. I warned my parents of this, and within 12 months of moving into their independent living apartment, they forced my father into nursing care--in the middle of the pandemic, so my mother didn't lay eyes on him for over 6 months. He died a year later, just last week. These solutions are not what you all think they are. They can work out great for those who are physically independent, but once they are not, it's really awful.[/quote]

Not true at this place. People buy there and they provide a list of vetted caregivers/agencies for people to hire from. With that and family within two miles, they will be able to sty until their death.[/quote]

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