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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Early 50s with menopause plus going on an SSRI for depression.[/quote]

SSRIs will generally kill libido and destroy your sex life; warn your spouse / partner before going on SSRIs.

Doctors do a terrible job of educating patients of this nearly universal side effect of SSRIs.[/quote]

When my husband went on antidepressants his sex drive plummeted.  He didn't think about sex at all.  It also made it very difficult for him to finish.  Good times  :( [/quote]

Sorry to hear that.  Hugs, pp.

[b]The “difficulty finishing” part hits home, since a couple of women I dated in the past were taking SSRIs and were unable to finish during;  they even struggled, but usually could eventually finish with “electronic assistance” afterwards (which was fine).  It seems to be a very common side effect.[/quote][/b]

It is a very common side effect of being a woman- with or without SSRIs. If vibrators were completely normalized as an expected part of intimacy(I realize they are for some couples ), an easy orgasm each time might increase a woman’s willingness to engage despite a lowered libido[/quote]

Only time I’ve ever needed a vibrator was when DH was too tired for subsequent rounds. I thought that was normal.[/quote]

Do you even talk to other women?  :roll: [/quote]

My DW gets the buzz treatment from me every single time. [/quote]

“Vibrator normalcy” is on the increase: recently noticed

- CVS now carries at least 4 types of vibrators - rabbit, small wand, gentle air-suction, and internal/remote.

- even Giant supermarket carries a $9 vibrating ring alongside condoms; while not really a traditional vibrator, it’s clearly meant for couple use (worn by the male)  and does use battery-operated vibration - meant for her.[/quote]

I agree that this is probably a good way to make sex more appealing to women.  Not just in cases where the man has ED, but to give a woman a reliable orgasm every time.

For a lot of women, orgasms are hit or miss and/or entail a lot of effort from her (directing spouse, manual stimulation, trying to get in the right mindset).  If I knew sex would result in an easy orgasm every time, like it does for my husband (and most men), I would be more likely to do it.[/quote]

[/b]So does that mean you haven’t taken responsibility for your own orgasms? Why not always have a reliable vibrator every time you have sex? That’s not always a man problem—more so you not taking responsibility of what gets you off. Men do it all the time and lucky for them, penetration is enough. [/quote][[b]

While I think women should take responsibility for their own orgasms, I empathize with the many that have been married forever and feel that suddenly introducing a vibrator would feel awkward. I think they should fight the cringe factor and buy a quality one. A surprising amount of men are uninformed and consider vibrator use a criticism of their skills/masculinity.[/quote]

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