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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ask. We had a weird situation where we weren't going to attend a family wedding because it was "no kids" but when the parents of the bride heard this, we were informed that kids within the close family could come. The couple was later among their friend group to marry so if everyone brought kids it would have been like a toddler daycare. We triple checked with the couple because we didn't want to appear presumptuous, and made it clear that we were fine either way, just wanted to clarify.[/quote]

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+2 and the most recent invitation I got was a card with details on the website, not an inner/outer envelope thing. Plus, not all of us have the Rules of Etiquette memorized or on our bedside tables. As it happens, I'm the matron of honor in this wedding so there is no way I'd have brought my kids. And the invitation just said "Ms. So-and-so and Mr. So-and-so." So it didn't even cross my mind to bring the kids and we RSVPd for just the two of us. And then a month before the wedding my friend calls and says "what will the kids want in a kids meal" and I said "what? they weren't invited" and she said "oh no, we just assumed everyone would bring their kids!" And this, by the way, is a friend who actually does have the Rules of Etiquette on her bedside table and in fact gave me a copy as a gift when we were younger. (I used it as bedtime reading - it would put me to sleep after just a page.)

TLDR, it never hurts to ask nicely rather than assume.[/quote]

Assume this PP kids were on the 2nd or 3rd invite wave.  1st is the actual invite core that get save the dates,  2nd gets invites but is by group could be friends of parents plus a block or co-workers or people from an activity or volunteer work, 3rd is calling specific people and letting them bring kids or plus ones based on open seats and rsvp NO.  This can happen to fill a food and beverage minimum for a specific head count.

People that went to some as children or teens and go adults only might have decided based on their own experiences to go adults only. What amazes me is when people have giant weddings and it's no kids despite kids of siblings etc.  Then when they have kids expect even others having small weddings to bump guests for their kids. [/quote]

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