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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am really surprised how much men seem to resent women wanting to marry partners who can provide for their families, but never resent other men who expect a certain aesthetic from their partners? It seems inconsistent since anyone can make money but not everyone is naturally beautiful (but no one tells men who want a beautiful wife to get plastic surgery themselves...) I feel like in the same way it’s as easy to fall for a beautiful person as a plain one, it’s as easy to fall in love with a wealthy person as a poor one .[/quote]

Well you’re a tad dishonest. The discussion hasn’t been about women wanting men who can provide for their families. It’s about women who want men who can provide Porsches.[/quote]

Where did the OP say that? She says above $110k. Around here, that is provide for their families.[/quote]

Ah, the ladies of DCUM, who claim $100k can’t keep a roof over your heads. No, you simply don’t get the roof you may want.[/quote]

Ok, so tell me why it’s ok to select for the breast size and hair color you want and not the roof?  Or to say something like you won’t date overweight women but not that you won’t date men who have low salaries in a high COL area?[/quote]

“Why it’s ok” ... This must be a female thing to care more about the acceptance of your peers than whether your plan to date only McMansion owners actually works. For men, any plan to date only supermodels usually doesn’t work, so we abandon that plan and date non-supermodels.
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It’s not our peers. I assure you no woman who says to her friends “I want to make sure I date a guy with a solid career” is being judged. It’s the men here flipping out that I don’t understand. Supermodels would be approximately as unlikely as billionaires, but plenty of men want to (and expect to) date a slim woman, for example, even though the national average is not slim. What is the difference for wanting above-average salary than below-average weight? I’m struggling to see how it isn’t just a blend of insecurity and misogyny.[/quote]

+1. In a society where the lions share of child rearing and housework falls upon women, it is not a crime to value a partner in raising that family who will have a stable career. In many scenarios women’s careers will stall once they have kids because they become the default parent and have a lack of flexibility at work. Men in their dating years should realize this, own up to it, or plan to sacrifice their own career to be the default parent. A true partnership requires this kind of foresight.

It’s one thing if OP is a shameless gold digger only looking for whatever man makes 1m+ a year. It’s quite another to simply be looking for someone with a good work ethic who will be a reliable partner in raising a family.  Having a decent income makes marriage easier and there’s nothing wrong with wanting to find someone on the same page about what constitutes that. [/quote]

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