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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I fit your profile exactly, except of course I am married with kids. I don't think the income issue in and of itself is a problem, but you have two very conflicting requirements that make it, imo, basically impossible. First, just to let you know, most guys don't want a woman with kids. It's icky. But the kids is really where the conflict comes in. [b]The guy is supposed to be okay with YOUR kids but not want any of his OWN kids.[/b] That's just absolutely nuts and you will never find that. UNLESS, the guy already HAS his own kids, in which case at the income level you are asking, he will be paying substantial child support and/or alimony (think like 20% of his pretax income plus daycare/medical/whatever). So he really needs to be making about 350k pre-child support/alimony at a minimum. And you're then assuming that this person would want to get together with you and help support YOUR kids too. I just don't see that happening for an older woman like yourself. Maybe if you were 25 and an absolute knock out...maybe... but still highly unlikely[/quote]

There's another recent thread along these lines and people got pissy at me for telling the OP essentially this. OP wants what they can't give.

Stop asking for no baggage when you have a complete luggage set.[/quote]

OP is fine with the guy having kids of his own. She just doesn't want to have any more kids. Lots of divorced guys with kids would be happy about that. The problem with women of childbearing age without kids is that they typically either want kids or could change their mind and want them later. Or if they really don't want to have kids, then they don't want a guy with kids either. Same reason I think OP won't have much luck with guys who don't have kids. They'll either look for a woman without kids to have kids with, or they don't want kids and don't want anyone else's kids either. Same with women without kids. I never would have dated a guy with kids back when I was single and childless. I'm still married so no dog in this fight, but OP's expectations don't seem unrealistic to me if she sticks to divorced guys with kids.[/quote]

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