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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you give a gift to your nephew, it shouldn't be on your SIL to use it / dispose of it / thank you for it.  That's a burden to her, not a gift.  I find it interesting that you think your SIL is rude for not thanking you for these, but you don't seem to have the same expectations of your brother.  Why should it be her job, and not his?[/quote]

This is awful. The entitled responses on here are truly horrifying. These PPs feel everyone must read their minds. They have no time to deal with well meaning relatives or to say thank you. Their time is too precious! They have so many things, gifts are a bother!

Were you all raised in a barn?  Good grief

You always say thank you if you know the gift was given with love. It takes very little time these days to say thank you. You are within your rights to ask not to receive gifts, you don’t have to use the gift. But if you know it was well meant and is not some passive aggressive thing, which is not the case here, you frickin say thank you. Now that they have made specific requests about gifts, those can be honored.

It’s not clear if the brother says thanks for gifts to the nephew but the SIL is rude not to acknowledge a gift given directly to her whether she likes it or not. SIL is rude and insecure. Don’t bother offering her advice or gifts, OP. She clearly doesn’t appreciate where you are coming from.  I don’t give a rats tookus how insecure she is, the rudeness is not excusable. As you can see many of us can tell you how she might take it the wrong way, but I can’t imagine being so prickly to a well-meaning relative.

Talk to your brother directly about things your nephew might like or go from their list when it’s an expected time for gifts, like a birthday. If you want, set the money aside you would use on other gifts and later you can give it to your nephew for college or something.  What an amazing thing that would be. But don’t waste your time on SIL. [/quote]

+1. I like the idea of putting the money aside as a gift for them later. [/quote]

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