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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I’ve been in this situation. Friend group from college that’s still very close. Started out as 10-12 people, with folks getting married (and thus the addition of spouses) it’s at more like 16 now (some married each other, some faded from the group over the years). Generally, my closest friends in the group knew I wasn’t a fan of Larla, but it’s not like I was just walking up to people and saying “Larla’s the worst”. Larla also knew I wasn’t a fan, and the feeling was mutual. So it’s not a source of drama and lots of discussion but it also isn’t a secret. I always include her in stuff because she is part of the group and she does the same for me (we were at each other’s weddings). There’s no need to be exclusionary, and the group dynamics are really wonderful. We can have a conversation, but generally we’re sitting next to other people whose company we prefer. I’m always friendly and kind to her, but I wouldn’t say it’s an act, it’s just being an adult. We, essentially, have tons of people we adore in common, and so we treat each other with respect and kindness.

No secrets, no drama, no acting. It works.[/quote]

PP, this interests me. Question for pp, how is it you feel comfortable sharing in this group when you don't like someone is this group? Do you trust them even if you don't like them? Do you trust that they won't share something you say, in this smaller group environment, with others outside the group and purposely not represent you correctly? Another PP mentioned some women do not prefer group dynamics. I know I'm asking the previous questions because I'm that way. I have close, individual, varied friends. I've been a member of social groups, but to be honest, I'm usually doing so to find someone I might be compatible with for a close individual friendship.[/quote]

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