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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is exactly why there is continued stigma and silence about abuse. The assumption is immediately that the victim didn’t do something right and that there’s something broken in her / her family. That’s just not true and if you think being a “good parent” protects your children entirely, you are wrong. Very wrong.

Anyway, sad that these gross misperceptions exist since it further victimizers abuse victims and gets the predatory off the hook. [/quote]

And enablers like you allow it to happen.  No one is disputing that Warner is responsible for his actions but there are several of us disputing that Wood was let down by her parents when they didn't try to help her after knowing what she was experiencing.  Her abuse involves more than one person at fault.  Warner was the perpetrator but there were people who could have helped her and they didn't.

Good parents don't ignore the physical, sexual and emotional abuse of a their child.  Good parents don't watch their child be physically, sexually and emotionally abused over long periods of time, years in fact, without trying to help.  Good parents do what they have to in order to help their child.

Please point out how these "good parents" did that.  We'll wait...[/quote]

I’m not an enabler. I was in a horrifically abusive relationship as a young adult. I have great parents and a great family. We talked about abuse and signs and what to look for. My parents were invested in our safety and our self esteemed. And then I found myself in a relationship that went from seemingly loving and healthy to deeply emotionally and physically abusive. It was assertions like yours - that I should have known better, that there was something broken in me (or my family) that added to the shame and silence. So, as I posted up thread, there aren’t always warning signs and even people with “good families” can be victims of abuse.

Also, suggest you be a little more sensitive in your approach to the topic and get informed - you don’t seem well versed in the complexity of how predators behave, which is not binary or obvious (that’s how predators are able to manipulate and control). Also, be kinder to those posting. You never know who you’re talking to on an anonymous forum. I don’t always want to say “hey, I know this stuff from personal experience” but yes, I do. Maybe consider being a little more respectful with your tone and really think about what you’re saying and responding to. Thanks. 
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